tolike eachother im as long as they keep it at a flirtation level and save the phisical stuff for when the 16 year old turns 18.
2006-06-13 13:05:22 · 17 answers · asked by MEGAN THE PLAYFUL SPIRIT 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
thank you every one for your answers and for those who said it would not be okay i am very mature for my age i like this guy and he cares about me and it does not matter because as far as im concerned love has no boundaries i like him and thats all that maters.
2006-06-15 05:50:41 · update #1
I was 14 and my love was 18, I know it is not 16 and 23 however my point is - if this is you and your parents are not aware of this relationship someone can get into trouble. My love is now my husband, almost 25 years later and still the love of my life. Age differences are only important to those that want to and can create an issue about them (hence parents). Love does not know numbers...
2006-06-13 20:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by MS L 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it also depends on the maturity level of the people involved. Some 16 year olds have the maturity of a 40 year old, while some 23 year olds have the maturity of a 3 year old.
Legally speaking, I don't think that 16 is jailbait age in any of the states, however I could be wrong. Here in Washington, it's under 16 that is considered statutory.
Look at whether or not the 23 year old has issues with relating to others his/her age, and see if that is why they are looking at a 16 year old, or is it that the 16 year old has the maturity to be able to handle the pressures of what a 23 year old wants in a relationship. My parents were 17 and 26 when they met. They are approaching their 30th anniversary. However, my mother was very mature, due to having grown up in an abusive home and being on her own at 15. She had already grown up and was ready to tackle the responsibilities.
2006-06-13 20:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Misty T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to totally agree with the girl who said if he is flirting with a 16 year old a 23 hes a huge PERV. I was that 16 year old girl once, only the guy was 25 and let me tell you, he can say all he wants that he doesnt want anything physical with you but he knows that the moment he starts whispering sweet nothings in your ear and rubbing you the right way that you will lose control and give in. I know a girl who was waiting for marriage and gave into an older guy because he rubbed her the right way, and she threw that commitment away. Dont get me wrong, I didnt wait till marriage but i did wait until I was inlove and that is what is important. Take it from a 20 year old woman who is with a 24 year old man, I know what men that age want, and it isnt flirting. They want all the aspects of a relationship, and having a 16 year old who they cant have sex with, still has to answer to mommy and daddy and is still in high school is not it. Trust me, please trust me, he wont wait 2 years to be physical with you, he will either talk you into being physical or he will find someone who will. I know what you are saying, relationships arent just about sex, you are right they arent, but sex is a natural part of a relationship and if you are going to be in an adult relationship you have to be prepared for it. There are so many boys your age that you can do the flirting with and save the sexual part until u are more ready for it. I sometimes wish I was still 16 and could just date around and see whomever i wanted without the seriousness of being in an adult relationship, and without the pressure of sex, take advantage of that while you can.
2006-06-13 13:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. A 23 yr old should want nothing to do with a 16 year old! First it is illegal if you date and also there is a huge difference in the ages. I am not talking about the age I am talking about experiences and other mental things. A 23 yr old is more mature and has experienced more things than a 16 yr old. The ages are night and day.
2006-06-13 13:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think it's ok. A person changes so much during teen and then their 20's. I'm telling you - he cannot possibly understand your life, nor you his. If he tells you otherwise, then he is not a normal 23 year old. And that spells trouble. Age gap relationships are ok when you are older, but not when you are still so young. Trust me - you'll regret it later. Who you are today is not who you will be in 2, 5, 10 years from now. And if he's flirting with a teenage girl, he's a total perv. Big time.
2006-06-13 13:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by echo_halo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 16 when i met my XHusband at 20.. so 4 or 7 years doesnt really matter... I think at 16 when you two ppl meet at that age is good.. BUT.. if parents are worried bout the Sexual worries of it.. then they best hope they knocked enough sense into there daughter or Son.. which ever.. to either be protected or to just not have any sexual relations at all.. I would rather have my daughter be open and honest with me.. then do it behind my back...
2006-06-13 20:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by DvS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds OK but keeping it at the flirtation level can be difficult and a little tricky. But I admire you both trying to do it as opposed to too many on this site alone.
2006-06-13 13:09:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The 16 year old is obviously naive and the 23 year old is clearly immature and insecure.
2006-06-13 13:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by REDMAN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as I'm the 23 year old.
2006-06-13 13:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by kanjjn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its a problem, but if its you who is dating at 23 year old just be careful.
2006-06-13 13:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by Aimee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋