Why is this.......?

Question

Why is it when someone is beautiful and knows it, it comes across as coneited? I mean, just because everybody else is saying "oooh, I'm fat" or "ooooh, I'm ugly", doesn't mean I should have to say it just to make them feel better. I care about people, and I'm not conceited. I just don't know why people think this way. I don't want any "attention", I really want to know......because the way I look at it, everybody in the world is really good looking-just a bad gene here or there. Right?

adamvelasco-You don't know me...that's kind of the whole point. I don't think I'm better then anyone....everyone is......equal in different ways.

And it's not like I sit around and am just....like this!! I go to the gym, I use creams!! If you care about what you look like, then go to the gym or something. Work on it..........but still.....you are exactly how God planned you to be right now, and who that is is perfectly beautiful......

Answer 1

I know exactly what you mean, but now instead of getting dragged down by other people's comments and hang ups, I just breeze on with a smile on my face. I smile because it increases my face value and also because i am jealous of no-one else, therefore I don't need to make comments to try and drag someone down for feeling good about themselves.

Answer 2

I think I'm a beautiful person, so what?
I know I'm not perfect, but i don't dwell on my bad parts, I just look at the good ones, everybody should do that.
I look at my heart, my personality, at my feelings and emotions, that's where real beauty is...!
When people come across as conceited, they normally are, but, they are conceited about how their hair looks, their nose, their lips, etc.-----
Search your soul... there you will find the answer... if your soul tells you that you are conceited... change your heart.. be nice, treat people right, then, nobody that matters will care if you are pretty or not.

Answer 3

People don't like being reminded of how important looks are in this world. People associate honesty, competence, intelligence, and value with physical appearance, both in art and in business. This is a demonstrable fact and also an inconvenient and uncomfortable truth that most people know and yet still deny. Less attractive people earn, on average, 13% less than attractive people.

When you acknowledge your attractiveness, you remind others of your apparent superiority. It's petty and sad, but human beings generally ARE that petty. They see someone else's gain as their loss. Confidence is seen as an attack, and misery is seen as a virtue that must be inflicted upon everyone equally.

Answer 4

Right. Most people think it comes across as concieted for one of two reasons: wither they are jealous or you are acting concieted.
In order to determine if it is the first one, they must look into THEIR hearts; in order to determine if it is the second, you would need to look deeply into YOURS (neither one can truly know the truth in the others' heart, unless they tell you). That is hard, either way. Usually, a trusted friend or family member can tell you, if you really want to know; one thing I do know: humility only makes one MORE beautiful, so cloak yourself in it, and you will know who is jealous and who you can call "friend". Stand tall and be true to yourself and never worry about the "naysayers".

god'sbakery had a VERY good answer!

Answer 5

In all actuality, not to be mean, but for every person, including you, who thinks you're beautiful, there's another who thinks you're really ugly... It's the way people work; it all depends on the way you show it.

If you show your beauty in ways that enhance it, like clothes that aren't meant for a hooker, then yes, people like that. Saying it, or totally lacking something else (not all beautiful people are too intelligent, not saying you're stupid) in the process and thinking otherwise might not come off too well.

Answer 6

I think you're conceited just by reading your what you wrote above. They call you conceited because of your personality. If you were humble, or gracious you would not hear such things. You probably think you are better than everyone else, and that's why people think the way they do about you. Just being honest.

Answer 7

God made you exactly the way He wanted you to be. Why shouldn't you appreciate His goodness to you? Why not praise and thank Him for your good looks, just the same as any other blessing? Just be careful not to let your appearance tempt you into pride or conceit.

Answer 8

Saying you are beautiful is conceited most conceited ppl do not know it . you do not have to say you are ugly but don't say you are beautiful it just makes ppl who may not be as good looking as you are feel worse. Anyways alot of ppl who think they are good looking are not and alot of ppl who think they are ugly are really good looking. remember most conceited ppl say "why does my confidence come across the wrong way"

Answer 9

If you are beautiful and you know it clap your hands...no just kidding. Others that may call you conceited just have that lack of self-esteem you were just talking about. Tell them to blow it out of there a** and "don't hate me because I'm beautiful".... if you got it flaunt it...just not too much because that would be conceited and rude...lol

Answer 10

Jealousy....Some people say they're fat and ugly just so someone will say, "Oooo no you're not." Then there's those that are ugly, and feel bad about themselves and don't wanna hear about how pretty you are because they're jealousThere's nothing wrong with thinking your pretty, as long as your don't get carried away.