While at the same time, she would understand my feelings and not throw herself to the floor and tell 'god' that i dont know what im saying, and have her turn against me.
2006-06-13 12:43:18 · 30 answers · asked by B pyro 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
As a child of a serious Christian Mother I think that you just have to tell her or let her think what she wants. I converted to Islam last year she knows but does not want to admit it. I let her live in her dream world but know deep inside she knows the truth.
2006-06-13 12:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by Layla 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to do it with as much love and respect for her as you possibly have. It's hard for some Christians to hear that anyone, much less some s/he loves, doesn't believe in the existance of God.
Much of this is going to depend on your relationship with her and your age (cuz let's face it, a 13 year old dealing with this is going to have a much different experience than a 23 year old who doesn't live at home), but I would come at it from the angle of explaining it to her as a simple fact. Maybe you could tell her that right now (whether or not it's true, those words will soften the blow), you just cannot comprehend God or God's existance. You aren't saying that you hate God or hate what she believes, but that you just cannot believe in an omnipotent entity as you currently understand the concept.
Tell your mom that you want to be a good person and that this belief isn't going to change how you act. And if it's going to be a BIG deal, don't bring it up any more than is necessary.
2006-06-13 19:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just grit your teeth and tell her. If she's really a true Christian, she can't very well get mad at you. As an atheist myself, I never faced this problem, since my mother is an agnostic and my father is also an atheist. But if she starts getting mad at her, tell her to play by her own rules - which Christians almost never do. "Judge not, lest ye be judged," might be a good quote. Also, if she takes it as a personal insult, tell her "I the Lord God will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it is required that you forgive all men." And if she calls you a hypocrite, then tell her to "remove the plank from your own eye" before she comments on the mote of dust in yours. I don't know how familiar you are with Evangelical scripture, but she should recognize it. I know it because I find Mathew, Mark, Luke, and John to be rather cleverly crafted bullsh*t, written 400 years after Jesus was supposedly born. But if she plays by her own rules, she's not allowed to be mad at you.
2006-06-13 19:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God will not have your mother turn against you. I'm sure your honesty will be good for your mom. If she's a true christian, she'll just pray for you, yet accept your decision/feelings at the same time. It's not her place to judge you, and if she didn't do her part in raising you up with the Lord as your Savior, she can't blame you for feeling the way you do. You and your family will be in my prayers.
2006-06-13 19:48:13 · answer #4 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best way is just to be honest. Tell her exactly how you feel. I am a believer, and although I have no children, I would appreciate that my child would feel comfortable being honest with me. You have no control over how your mother reacts; none of us has control over how another will react to what we say. But here is a sage word of wisdom; don't get into an argument. It won't lead anywhere for either of you. Discussing is fine....arguing leads nowhere.
2006-06-13 19:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by christian_lady_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she the kind of lady that speaks in tongues and believes George Bush is going to bring about the End of Days?
Or is she pretty down to earth, and understands that people are people?
If it's the former, I wouldn't say a word. If it's the latter, bring up the subject one day if asked about it.
Some people think being an atheist means you're immoral. There's a huge stigma that people have about atheists, and its usually filled with paranoia and ignorace.
So, I'd keep it to yourself unless really confronted about it one day.
2006-06-13 19:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by dgrhm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first, I would say to just be honest with her...however, if she is a real hard core fundamentalist...you should probably keep it to yourself. If you still live at home, just maybe appease her till you can move out...then break the news to her. I agree that religion is personal....and she should not judge you for what you believe in your heart. I'm agnostic with a bunch of Christian friends...so I know you may feel like you're going insane!!!
2006-06-13 19:50:41 · answer #7 · answered by song of the phoenix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sad you have not believed in the faith of your mother . God exists because he is eternal truth. Your mother knows that salvation is up to each individual. Only God will judge everyone after death. Your mother will eventually understand and will always love you, even if you aren't together in the afterlife.
2006-06-13 19:51:02 · answer #8 · answered by enigma21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does react that way, I think she needs to change and if I were you I would seriously resent her. Hopefully she won't react too badly, but really theres no best way to tell her, maybe her reaction will be the same anyway. But you an try. Just start talking to her and ask her would she always accept you, no matter what you did.
2006-06-13 19:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There would not be a best way to tell her. Besides, there must be a God I dont think you and earth just fell here out of no where. There must have been a God to create earth and us.
2006-06-13 19:49:54 · answer #10 · answered by lee-lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋