And yes it was made clear that we would not sleep with anyone else during this time and she sleeps with her X not once but twice I find out 6 mos later should I trust her again?
2006-06-13 12:40:35 · 14 answers · asked by jefgreen237 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're not ready for a relationship, then why can't she sleep with other people?
If you want her to be faithful, why not just call it a relationship?
2006-06-13 12:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cna't have your cake and eat it too.. if it bothers you that much that she's sleeping with other men.. twice.. then why doesn't it bother you that you're not together? you arn't commited in any way obviously- otherwise you'd be a couple.. so she should be free to do whatever the hell she wants. you boys can be confusing and selfish. another thing.. a year? and no relationship. are you going anywhere? are you even progressing with it?? ****. and to answer the question.. there really shouldn't be a trust issue there. you're not together. you said you wern't ready for the relationship.. so technically.. she can do what she wants... and if she wanted to have sex.. then she had the right to because you don't want to commit.. so there really shouldn't be a trust issue to begin with. if you don't want her to sleep with someone else.. then make her yours.. get into a relationship with her.. then she might not.
2006-06-13 19:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by tanna b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what I don't understand. You told her you weren't ready for a relationship, but that you guys wouldn't sleep with other people. What's your problem? That is a relationship.
When a guy says he isn't ready for a relationship then more than likely, he is leaving his options open to mess with another woman. Maybe if you would have committed to her, then she wouldn't have slept with her ex.
She didn't cheat on you because she is not your girlfriend. That's up to you if you want to trust her again.
2006-06-13 19:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - and don't let her use the "you weren't ready for a relationship" as an excuse. You had an agreement that involved not sleeping with other people and she broke it - TWICE!!! You forgave her once, don't be a sucker. There are too many people out there (have you checked out Yahoo personals?).
2006-06-13 19:49:25 · answer #4 · answered by ImUrMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not in a relationship, then she's not cheating on you. However, from a physical health point-of-view, if she's sleeping with other people and lying to you about it, perhaps you should quit sleeping with her. After all, if you're not in a relationship, you're claiming to not be emotionally committed. And if you're not emotionally committed, then the answer is easy. Go find yourself another friend-with-benefits, if that's all you want.
2006-06-13 20:10:00 · answer #5 · answered by loverofmanatee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a judgment call.
Let me ask you this - you don't have to answer me but you do have to answer yourself: Was it HER choice to abstain from sex, YOUR choice, or was it REALLY a mutual decision?
If it was hers and she broke her word - I'd ditch her. I might damn well ditch her in any case. But again, it's a judgment call - can you TRUST her? If you found out six months later... I don't know, that's really f---ed up.
2006-06-13 19:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's to trust? Obviously your relationship is based totally on orgasms. If she can get a few more somewhere else, who would blame her?
Deal with it, it's what you wanted.
2006-06-13 19:44:28 · answer #7 · answered by Pancakes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you're not in a relationship, so she's a free agent...you can't have it both ways....if you're not ready for a relationship, then you're not, and thats okay..but you cant expect her to put her life on hold for you to decide what you want. sorry dude.
2006-06-13 19:44:27 · answer #8 · answered by notjunecleaver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to commit to her and you don't want her to see anyone else?
Sorry. Life doesn't work that way.
She'll be happier when she 'leaves' you.
2006-06-13 19:44:46 · answer #9 · answered by babyitsyou31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break up wit her. No you should't trust her again.
2006-06-13 19:43:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋