Cold Feet?

Question

In 14 months and 1 day I'm getting married. Most of the time, I'm excited....and sometimes I'm like "OMG, I'm getting married. I'll only be 20." I want to be with him, and take care of him forever....but I don't know if me thinking like that is just cold feet, or a sign to postpone it longer. Someone who has been married young, please help me!

He takes very good care of me. If he doesn't think I'm happy, he does every thing he can to make sure I am. When I'm sick, he is there feeding me meds and chillin with me, he spoils me like no other (I know that will stop one day)....he treats me better then anyone I know.

Answer 1

I got married last october and I was 20. I went through a roller coaster of emotions from excitement to doubt but it will all pass. It's normal what you are feeling. But I truly feel I made the right decision. Just think of all the great fun you guys will have together. Going out; sleeping in; waking up next to each other; coming home to the person who loves you sooo much. Sure there is no perfect marriage but with true love you are able to work through disagreements. Just always RESPECT, COMMUNICATE, & learn to let go of small little dissagrements(im still working on that=) *Focus on all the reasons why you are getting married to help calm your nerves.

Answer 2

i got married young. i was 17 when i applied for my marriage certificate, so my mom had to sign for it, but i didnt actually marry until i was 18. i loved him with all my heart, but after we married, everything changed. how long have you been with this man to begin with? how long have you known each other before dating. how long were you dating before he asked you to marry him? these are all questions to ask before you make the big plunge. if you two are in love, and are compatible with each other, then go for it. the cold feet could be coming from the fact that (like most people get) the feeling that you are going to be sharing your life with one person for the rest of your life. its exciting but scary at the same time. you have 14 months to go. anything can happen between now and then. talk to your man about how you feel, and if he feels the same way maybe it would be best to postpone a little longer. the man i married at age 18, him and i divorced after giving birth to our child, (which happened to be one day after our 1 year wedding anniversary). he decided he was not really ready, and although we had been married for a year, he decided to leave. we were divorced almost a year later and have both moved on since then. my second husband i met 6 years ago (as of june 9th) we only dated for 6 weeks before we got married, and married a month before living together. its going to be rough. there will be sacrifices to make on both ends, and marriage is a hard job. if you are both willing to do your share then you may have a shot, but take a good hard look at how your lives are now, and what you both want to acheive in life. careers, kids ect... whos going to stay at home with the children, whos going to be the full time worker? these are all things to discuss before marriage to make sure you can comprimise and both see eye to eye on so there are no surprises when it happens. talk about how you feel about how to raise your children. do you share the same religion? do you both have different parenting veiws? these are all things that can effect the marriage when the time comes, and why most marriages end. best of luck to you, and i do wish you all well.

Answer 3

My best advice to you, is to make sure you know what you are really doing. Maybe if you are feeling uncomfortable, it is because something is pulling you back...not that you don't want to get married, since it sounds like you two are in love, but maybe you should do some premarital couseling...just to have someone there to talk to you about what is going on. They do it for a living. It should help out...maybe thier are questions that you need answered, and that is why you feel that way.

Answer 4

I had that feeling, too. With my first husband. I decided about a month before we got married that I was too young, but everybody talked me out of bailing. We were married for four years before we separated. . .having a baby really strained us.

I'm very happily married to someone else now, and had absolutely no qualms the second time because I knew it was right.

Answer 5

HMMMMMMMM maybe you need to reevaluate why you said YES. And if you can answer that one then POST PONE for a bit til you figure it out. By the way i noticed you said you enjoy taking care of him,,, Does he take care of you EQUALLY?????

Answer 6

if you truely love him, it should pass...im only 19 and am getting married this august...so i have dealt w/ the same mixed emotions you got goin...dont worry it should pass!