and that focus on education want to finish it or fit their children in the middle; like taking a break then going back. im starting school in august and i was thinking about when i would want to start a family. i know i dont want one right after marriage because i want to be alone with my husband for a while. i was wondering does it matter to you all or do you just go with the flow and take it as you get it. i would love to wait atleast 8 months because i mean my parents were married in january and i was born in november lol so i guess different folks, different strokes. what im also asking is, is it easier to wait and finish school or let family and education mix and mingle?
2006-06-13 12:09:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Well, my husband and I were both military and in our training school when we married. Nine days later we found out I was pregnant (I was on depo by the way). We planned on waiting about four years so I would be out of the Navy but the Lord had other plans. I never wanted to go to school so that didn't matter to me. What did matter was that I wanted to stay at home with my child. Both my parents were in the Navy and my first memory of them is after my dad retired. We were raised by strangers and although I don't hold it against my parents, I didn't want it for my children. I was lucky enough to convince my command to honorably discharge me. I do plan on getting an Associates Degree before my son is in high school. I don't want him using the excuse I did. My parents never went to college, my dad even dropped out of high school. They were both smart and successful and happy so why did I have to go to college? I want my children to and therefore I plan on going. I know it'll be hard but I have to set an example. By the way, I'm pregnant again and this one is planned. My son is 13 months and my husband and I decided it was time to give him a brother or sister.
2006-06-13 15:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
We were waiting until we were financially ready to start a family and all of that but then we realized that we'll never be financially "ready" there will always be something we could buy or pay off the car and just get another one and have to save up again so we just decided that when we felt emotionally ready to have a family then we would start trying instead of financially ready. It's probably easier to finish school without worrying about the kids, but depending on your situation there will probably be people there to help you out with watching the baby if you have to finish a paper or something.
2006-06-13 16:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family planning is a smart, responsible thing to do. You shouldn't have children until you are ready and want them.
It's difficult to juggle family and education. Plus, your instincts are right in wanting to be "alone" with your husband for a while before children. Enjoy your relationship; let the decision to have children come from the strength of your relationship, not just some chance meeting of sperm and egg.
Good luck to you!
2006-06-13 12:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think planning ahead is not only best for you - but wise too!
i was an august baby after my parents married the previous November - and they always treated me like i was 'in the way'
however try and use non chemical methods of contraception as some of the chemical methods can hinder fertility later on.
also you may find it easier to finish your education before starting a family because the cost of childcare can be prohibitive and also you may not want to spend long periods of time away from your baby.
2006-06-13 12:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely finish school first!!!!! I don't have kids - but work 40+ hours/wk and go to school evenings - I can't imagine throwing kids in the mix. If it is not a question of your biological clock ticking away - then finish school and enjoy the alone time w/ hubby. Me and mine very much enjoy the alone time - and we have been married 10 years - together 18.
SO GOOD LUCK
2006-06-13 12:14:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mix and mingle? Having children isn't like happy hour! Put your priorities in the right order so when you finally do have children you can give them the time and attention they deserve!
2006-06-13 12:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Dushka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
finishing school with a baby to take care of is like going into the Marines and completing basic training with one leg
2006-06-13 12:14:49 · answer #7 · answered by Corky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋