what is the best way to help with a 13 year old who is suisidel?

Answer 1

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You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.
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Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, “I will wait 24 hours before I do anything.” Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesn’t mean that you have to actually do it right this minute. Put some distance between your suicidal feelings and suicidal action. Even if it’s just 24 hours. You have already done it for 5 minutes, just by reading this. You can do it for another 5 minutes by continuing to read this page. Keep going, and realize that while you still feel suicidal, you are not, at this moment, acting on it. That is very encouraging to me, and I hope it is to you.
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People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.
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Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.

But there are people out there who can be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone what’s going on with you. It is okay to ask for help. Try:

* Send an anonymous e-mail to The Samaritans
* Call 1-800-SUICIDE in the U.S.
* Teenagers, call Covenant House NineLine, 1-800-999-9999
* Look in the front of your phone book for a crisis line
* Call a psychotherapist
* Carefully choose a friend or a minister or rabbi, someone who is likely to listen

But don’t give yourself the additional burden of trying to deal with this alone. Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases an awful lot of the pressure, and it might be just the additional coping resource you need to regain your balance.
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Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a really good idea. So are the various self-help groups available both in your community and on the Internet.

Answer 2

First of all identify the biggest problem in the kids life, most of the time it is social problems such as no friends, trauma from moving or self confidence problems. Talk to your 13 year old but not as a parent or family member but as a friend. If they close up on you then closely watch them and see in which situations they feel sad or angry. Be Careful most teenagers will sece that they are being watched wich will make them angry or uncomfortable.Try to make them comfortable while they are going through this phase because it is almost always a phase. Seeing a theripist or Sociol Worker if behavior continues for signs of Teenage depression could be present. A condition that is very serious. Most of all show them love, and that they are special. Talking to teachers is also helpful!!

Answer 3

The best way to help a 13 year old that is suicidal is ti get them some help. It will be much easier for them to talk to someone who has been in their shoes though. I tried to committ suicide before and I was helped by someone who understood what I was going through. I was really depressed and out of it .In orde rto help them you have to reassure tham that that is what you are tryinh yo do help them not hurt them. The 13 year olds natural reaction will be that you do not understand and you have to make sure that you show them that they are loved because when teenagers are contemplating suicidie ti is much deeper than you think. I had a lot of emotional issues going on when I tried I have use my experience to h elp others so if you need someone to talk to feel free to send me an e-mail because i truly understand what you are going through

Answer 4

First, take the talk of suicide seriously, don't just dismiss it like they're joking. Stress that the problem or situation they are going through is only temporary and can be fixed. If they still are suicidal, seek professional help and DO NOT leave the person alone. And don't forget to stress that suicide is not the answer, there are other people going through what they are going through and they are not alone, tell them that the person has people that want to help them. And Finally, DO NOT agree to keep it a secret, tell someone and try to work it out together.

Answer 5

Listen to them. Counseling. Prayer. Kids that age need someone to listen to them even if what they are saying is stupid. Or they may be starting to experience chemical changes that could be a sign of more problems to come. Try the simpler answers first. A Big Brother or Sister might help. If that doesn't work, try getting them to a professional counselor. Most of all, let them know that they are important to you - they need to know how they make a difference in the world.

Answer 6

It sounds like you are the 13 yr. old that is suicidal.. call a suicide hotline or talk to your parents immediately. Life can be hard but the alternative is unacceptable.

Answer 7

help them try a pyshchiatrist. Just be there to let them have someone to talk to and to let all there problems out. Make them feel wanted and loved, be there for them. When i was 12 i thought about killing myself but all i wanted was to feel needed and that i belonged somewhere. My mom did that for me and she helped me get through it.

Answer 8

Please call a hot line or talk to your parents. If this is a parent asking take the 13 yr. old to a Dr. NOW

Answer 9

well im 14 and i used to be suicidal when i was 13 and 14(im turning 15 in a few weeks)....when my mother tried to help me, she just yelled at me and threatened to throw me in Winnabago(mental facility for crazy ppl like me) and that just pissed me off even more and made me feel unwanted and crazy.. so that made me cut even more so i could somehow escape from my thoughts and my mom's yelling and the rest of my family's critizing... my friends tried to help me by straight up telling me i was gonna kill myself one day and that it was really killing them to see me like this. but no matter what they said, i wouldnt stop....in fact, just kknowing that they were talking abut my probelms behind my back made me feel even worse... but i stopped one day and im not exactly sure why.. i htink its just becuz i saw my life was falling apart and even tho i wanted to completely end it, i had to stay for my little sister.. i love her so much and i can not bare to think about how she would feel if i died and if she had to go to my funeral and be so confused as to what happened and just what was going on. shes only 5 years old... this 13 year old kid needs to want to change. its just like with drugs and alcohol. u cant help someone that doesnt want t change at all. dont like all of a sudden go up to him or her and be like "hey i know ur suicidal and i want to help". that may seem logical but it really isnt. if my mom came up to me and said that, i would have been like "f*ck off mother. i know u dont want to help me. u dont even care". make sure they know that u love this person or at the very least, care for him or her and say exactly how ur feeling calmly and dont say "ur ruining ur life. soon there will be no way to fix this all". that will just make them feel like a failure. i know, i've been there. say u want to help becuz u dont want to see them hurt themself. tell them they r special and wanted and ur sorry for all thats happening but u know they're strong and they will get thru this. they just need some love and hope and help. they need to know they're not alone becuz in my experience, thats how suicidal people feel. alone.
i just hope that i can help becuz i've been there before with myself and i would hate to know that there is someone else out there that is feeling the way i felt. that is a feeling that noone wants to feel and no one should have to feel.
Good luck!!! I really hope it all works out for you and this person.
Felicia

Answer 10

i don't think that you can do much to a 13 years old kid, than close watch. and supervision