Would losing your virginity to a friend be a good idea?

Question

As a 28 year old virgin im seriously thinking about losing my virginity to a friend with whom i have previously fooled around a bit and am wondering if this is a good idea.Of course this isnt how I thought it would happen, but it all seems like too big a deal now and i want to get it over and done with and in the process have some fun with him

Answer 1

That is the best you can do, a real friend would no harm and will always keep it in the heart forever...

I become husband of my best friend... And I am stupidly in love before 6 years of marriage and 2 beautiful princesses

Answer 2

As long as you know that this person's feelings towards you won't change. You need to be careful about falling for this person as well. You may go into it thinking you are just going to have meaningless sex and that neither of you will get attached, but be aware of the consequences. You may end up having seriously fellings for this person without those fellings being reciprocated or vice versa. It may become very uncomfortable to be around each other as well. I tend to think that virginity is a little over rated, but since you have waited so long, wouldn't it be great to be able to wait until you are in love? Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with meaningless sex, but there is something to be said for making love with someone too

Answer 3

It all depends. If you both care for eachother and if it wont get in the way of your guys' friendship, then I think it would be a good idea to lose your virginity to your friend (if you're really desperate to get it over with). But, I dont think it really matters if you're a virgin or not. Sex is not a big deal. Do not have high expectations if you are going to have sex for your first time. Believe me, it's not what you think it'll be. But, the more you have sex, the better it feels. If you feel that you and your friend having sex will somehow effect your friendship in a negative way, I would advice you not to do it.

Answer 4

Yes, losing virginity to a friend can be the best way, because you already know, and are comfortable with the other, but on the other hand, usually one or both of the participants will end up falling for the other...and if one is doing it just for the fun of it, the results can be most uncomfortable... You must both agree on it ONLY being for FUN,.,.,unless you're both ready to commit to the other.....up to you...

Answer 5

Hey, i lost mine to my best friend when i was seventeen, i don't regret that, but i do regret developing feelings for him afterwards. Since you guys have already fooled around, are you sure that you are "just friends?" It is sooo much better when both of the people like each other mutually, but if you are a "virgin on a mission" as i was at my tender age, i say "You go girlfriend!!"

Answer 6

since you haven't had sex before, let me clue you in:
SEX CHANGES EVERYTHING

never, ever forget that

good, happy, healthy sex can be stuffed full of good, happy, healthy emotions. cynical, hesitant, unengaged sex will net you some momentary fun, then more cynicism, hesitation, and disengagement

don't discount the experience of sex and sex can be an awesome experience

if you do discount it ("too big a deal now"... "want to get it over with") it will be just a physical act instead of something incredible

if you do that, then sex will remain "no big deal" and just getting it over with again and again

ask yourself why you haven't had sex - there must be a reason you've waited, then be true to yourself

sex is a big deal, especially for women

and it can be horrible if your head isn't in the right place

Answer 7

Well, losing it to a friend is not such a good idea. Why not save it for a lover...or a marital partner? Your first time is really supposed to be special. Do you really want to throw yourself away? If you save it for marriage it will be so much more magical. And your partner will look up to you so much more for saving yourself.

Besides, do you really want to ruin this friendship by throwing in the embarrassment of having sex? Once you start being intimate, things will never be the same.

Answer 8

You could go about your plan as you are thinking of doing it now..but you could also wait for the right person and the right moment, believe me there are enough opportunities and options out there. Why rush this...your first experience should be one that you will want to remember fondly in the years ahead.

Answer 9

Jesus, if you have waited this long then just save it for what you have been waiting for, either someone you love or marriage. I mean sex is great and all but obviously you have been waiting for some reason. Personally, I think saving yourself for marriage is lame but since you seem to be waiting why give in now.

Answer 10

Giving yourself to someone in a sexual manner is supposed to be something that shouldn't be given to someone just for the hell of it. As for this friend of yours, do you care about him/her enough to allow sex to become something that is part of your relationship. And if after you have sex with the person, do you think you two will remain friends? Talk with this friend of yours and give it some more thought.