you also say sex before marriage is wrong because all it takes is one time and please...if you read...read it?

Question

and you could get the girl pregnant that you dont want to spend your life with...or could get a disease or something....and im thinking..yeah ok....but WHERE THE HELL IS YOUR COMMON SENSE!!....why do you label everyone who has sex before marriage wrong and that we are stupid for doing so because of all the diseases around and the possibility of being pregnant....what about the people who are smart and take precautions...like...hmm.. wearing a condom or doing a health check for instance...hey wow...what a concept..people are out there that do that....for instance...me!! i dont have sex with one night stands...or anyone that ive just met...but if the relationship goes for a while then yes...and whats to say that that bad stuff wont happen when your married...you get a disease the first freaking night you two are intimate...wow..then what...your sitting there with HIV or AIDS or something like that...im not dogging people for their belief....and yes i am voicing my opinion when im asking

Others not to….and the reason for that is that I read peoples questions depicting their concerns about their sex life and then the responses they get because of the way they choose to live their lives….and yes…I don’t care but im only looking for people that think the same that people have their opinions and different life styles but why must most dog them and throw a freakin bible in their face most of the time…that’s all im asking here….

Answer 1

you must be bored go out side and do something

Answer 2

I hear you. I hate it when people judge you for what you do just because they believe that it is wrong. I have had to work with some of these judge-mental people and it makes you feel like crap. I say that if you have sex before you are married just make sure it is with someone that you care about and that you take the pre-cautions to avoid getting pregnant if that is not wanted. I have pre-marital sex and we do take all of the precautions. I'm on bc and he uses a condom. We know that we don't want kids right now so we make sure that it doesn't happen but at the same time enjoy ourselves and each others company.

Answer 3

hmmm.. ok. Lets see, I don't know if I fit ur description here, but I will say that I am a virgin, and def believe in being until I'm married. Yet, I do not judge other people, or at least I don't express it. It is your personal choice. I choose this way not only because of my faith, but also because I think it is a beautiful thing to only have it with the person you intend to spend the rest of your life with. It's really hard for me sometimes, since the boyfriends I had in the past didn't always respect my choice, and I had to break up before things got worse. So don't try to persuade people to have sex, it is a personal desicion, yet I strongly respect those that do decided to save themselves.
Also I don't even like the idea of contraception, but I'll just worry about that when I'm married. Yep :] I'm proud to be who I am and not let others influence me the way I don't want to be pushed. It takes strong people to do that.

Answer 4

You are asking valid questions and have valid points. However, you miss one BIG thing. The ONLY thing you have to offer in your life one time is your virginity. It is hypocritical to think that you can sleep with multiple partners over and over again and find a virgin to marry. When a guy takes a girls virginity (by choice or otherwise) she then loses the one thing she can offer only once to her husband. The same holds true for girls who take a guys virginity. Many Christians (and many others whether or not they are church goers) have learned from others experiences that virginity IS a thing to be treasured for the time they get married. Besides all the physical, emotional, psychological problems, STDs and AIDS issues you mention sex is a gift to your partner. When one gives away that gift carelessly they usually regret it. Frequently it is the girls who pay the ultimate price. Unfortunately many guys walk away with their "prize" and never face the facts of the responsibilities they have. You may treat sex as a casual encounter, but you are not treating sex with the respect it deserves, I guarantee that. Think about that before you go have sex with a new girl. Think about what you are getting and what you are taking away. You will eventually regret it. I suspect you already do.

Answer 5

Before blowing me off, read the entire thing cuz I think this is important. I am a Christian who believes in waiting to have sex until marriage. However, I am also a woman who had sex before marriage. Just as my husband is a man who had sex before marriage. We each had at least one prior partner and practiced "safe sex" and were intimate with each other prior to our marriage 9 years ago. Our previous partners were people that we loved and cared about and we were expressing our love through sex while in those relationship as well as with each other when our relationship became intimate. Are you following this? It sounds like a soap opera... Anyway, I came to realize after marrying my husband that, I had given away the one thing that was supposed to be the most precious gift that I had to offer just to him. And I missed out on receiving that gift from him as well. I don't think that he has the same sentimentality about it that I do. His ego is big enough that he thinks every time with him is a precious gift. The big lug. I don't think that people that have sex before marriage are bad people. But speaking from experience, I feel sad for having shared it with someone other than my husband even though I still think fondly of my first love.

Answer 6

Sex is the result of having a 100% trust with that someone special. Maturity in a relationship requires us to take precautions no matter what and to make the sexual experience a pleasurable one., between two consenting adults. That is reality.

Sex before marriage rule is a result of religious fanatics who have been brainwashed into believing that someone who is invisible and lives in the sky will punish them based on a half truth be told interpretation of a story written in a book they call the bible.,written 2000 years ago The church relies on weak minds to guide them without them thinking much about today's reality.

We are given choices. Some choose to have sex before marriage and dealing with reality,while others choose to believe in
a guilt trip brought on by their own weaknesses.

Answer 7

Yes, definately everybody has their own opinions and choices, but the people here just want everybody to see every side of the issues. That way, they can make the most informed choice. Even if they are throwing the bible in your face, you can ignore them because that's their opinion, whether it is right or wrong. Choice is good.

Answer 8

But the problem is it does happen. Condoms are not 100% effective, so if you are having sex you have to take care of the consequences. Sex before marriage is just something that brings value to sex. Obviously you don't think it is that valuable, if you just want to give yourself to people

Answer 9

I don't believe in waiting for marriage to have sex. I say try it before you by it. Waiting till marriage is pointless. Go out and have some fun! Virginity is way overrated and nothing really that special.

Answer 10

the reason it was wrong in the bible days is because i woman was a mans property and her virginity was important to secure a nation. they need to be sure of who the children belonged to. and it was to keep diseases down.and to there were more men then weman in those days

Answer 11

You have been thinking about this wwwaaaayyy too long. Relax and breath and remember to each their own. You dont need to give anyone advice you dont want to.