My children have been in foster care since January of this year and they are coming home on June 30th. Well they come to me and literally smell of urine. Their nails are long and the white parts are literally black. Yesterday I gave them a bath and I knew my bath tub was clean before I put them in. When they got out it was brown. My daughter who is 3 has started wetting her pants for no reason and she is fully potty trained, has been for awhile. My son who is 5 has to wear a diaper to bed and they never did this before. Any suggestions, only serious answers I don't need pricks making smart remarks.
2006-06-13 11:35:23 · 14 answers · asked by Nisi 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have reported them many times. I took pictures of my children, when my daughter came over with scratches all over her back and would say that there was a boy, James, who is old enough to go hunting and his mom locks them in the room together. It just worries me!
Not only that but when my son was 2 months old he ended up with RSV, and they would bring him to me with no coat on in the middle of Feburary, another thing is they didn't bring him in to the hospital for almost a week after he got sick.
I am stuck and don't know what else to do. No one listens including CPS. The have even talked to me about them adopting my youngest who I am refusing to let go of!
2006-06-13 11:47:06 · update #1
One other thing that bothers me about my oldest son. He has started playing with dead animals. He sits in the corner and stares out the window. He doesn't remind me of my normal child that used to run around the house all day or outside all day screaming and laughing. He looks so sad.
2006-06-13 11:49:55 · update #2
What you have here is a problem of child abuse. what i would do is to talk with your district or state Representative. that foster parent should face some type of punishment. call your county worker or try to get some attention! this is a very serious matter and it should not have happened.
2006-06-13 11:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by Adventist 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You seriously need to get in contact with social services, and people in charge of the foster care that your children have been at. Report to both the things that you have noticed. The wetting pants and wetting the bed problems can be from stress or also because the children are not allowed regular potty times or access. Whatever you do, get your children away from these foster people as soon as you possibly can!
2006-06-13 11:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is call some type of child service b/c that place needs to be shut down. Make a surprise trip just to see what is really going on, or send an authority figure in. Get your 5 year old to talk to you about, b/c you can if something is wrong through his actions. Do whatever you have to do for your children and the other children there.
2006-06-13 11:45:06 · answer #3 · answered by *FLIRTACIOUS* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I worked as a foster care counselor for many years and I can tell you aside from your hygiene issues, these kids have been traumatized from being removed from their home environment and their family. I don't know what state you live in, but I do know that having your children removed from your home is literally a choice as you have to do something pretty extreme in the way of neglect/abuse to have your kids removed. This could also be a reason your children are regressing in some aspects of their behavior, it is a very common thing to see with children who have been in foster care. Be happy that you got your kids back and focus your energy on keeping them. If you want REAL help or answers talk to your state agency. Good luck.
2006-06-13 11:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know nothing of the foster care system but it seems that you should contact whoever placed your children there. If you get no satisfaction then I would contact an attorney. I would have taken pictures before the bath and of the bath water when I was through bathing them. Your children may need to be seen by both a psychologist and a pediatrician as it seems they have been traumatized by this situation. I wish you all the best.
2006-06-13 11:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by jeezmeneti66 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're really concerned, report the incident to the organization that placed your kids with that family(CPS or DCFS, I don't know where you live). With all the reports recently about kids being abused while in foster care, I wouldn't take any chances. Be persistant, and they should open an investigation on the foster family. Even if they don't, your report will be on file, so if there are ever any other complaints, there will be a record of prior incidents.
2006-06-13 11:43:01 · answer #6 · answered by ladykamnell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're children are obviously suffering from the emotional trauma of being uprooted and put into a home where they don't know people. Whether there is abuse going on in the home, which is what you are alluding to, I can't tell. What you need to do is document everything, write it down, take pictures and make their case worker aware of the situation and your concerns. Secondly, you need to find some sort of counseling service for both of them and parenting classes for you. The chance of you getting anything done before they come home will probably be small unless you can prove abuse quickly.
2006-06-13 11:41:32 · answer #7 · answered by vonwasden 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd contact Children's Services and file a report. Especially if you can document your childrens' appearance. Also may be a good idea to keep a detailed record. Write down dates and times you saw your children and include how their condition and behavior was.
You may also want to have your children meet with a pediatric psychologist...The psychologist may be able to document things and back you up if you need it....And also help the kids out before things get even more crazy.
2006-06-13 11:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by cafegrrrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could get a hold of Child Protective Services so they they could look into the foster family. Even if they dont find anything your complaint will always be on file just in case anything ever happens in the future with any other foster kids they might have.
GOOD LUCK
2006-06-13 11:41:38 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but is sounds like there might be a molestation problem going on in the foster family.
Maybe other foster kids, or something.
And it sounds like they're being terribly neglected there.
Just love them twice as much, and try to heal with them when they come home for good.
2006-06-13 11:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by babyitsyou31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋