If women are available for dating, I noticed they don't usually start a conversation unless they are first "prompted" or encouraged. It is almost as if they needed a "jump start" to get over they natural reluctancy...why?
2006-06-13 11:25:45 · 28 answers · asked by Inquisitive Macho 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is hard for women because of rejection. I know it's not fair cause men have to go through the same thing but men are so into looks that it is hard to know who you are dealing w/. I am always worried that a guy is gonna think I am not attractive enough even though I know that there is nothing wrong w/ me. I think women are a little more forgiving about looks so it may be easier for a guy. Anyway, that is why I never did, I also figured if you want it come and get it. Women like men who take initiative and know what they want and get it. It is a major turn on when a man shows he wants you.
2006-06-13 11:33:12 · answer #1 · answered by a.s 2 · 12⤊ 4⤋
To be honest with you, even though some of us can just come over and say "Hey, handsome" not all girls are able to come over to a handsome man and just say hi. Part of us wants to and the other is just too-darn shy to even move and in the same time afraid of your negative reaction to our attempt (just like men are afraid of the woman's rejection)... This might be how some of "shy-types" think (depending of course on the each person), "Should I go over and say hi? Or, wait untill he'll do it? What's he going to think? Do I look alright? Is my hair okay? My God, what am I wearing? He'll never even look at me dressed like this, not even mentioning to say 'Hi' back... May be I should just leave him alone, he'll think I'm either a nut-case or desperate... And, I'm probably not his type." That and many other questions that can come up within a second when we look at a guy we like, but are not sure of how to approach him. It doesn't mean that we don't want to, it's just some of us either have never done this before or are not sure of how to act in any cituation.
However, it makes us really happy when a guy we've been looking at for the past half hour approaches us and says hi to us, or, to the specific one in our little group of girls. It's something that makes our hearts at times to skip a beat and for a split moment think that it's a dream when you came over to us... even if it is to say, "Hi. How are you?" :)
I hope I've answered your question :)
2006-06-13 11:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by tiger_pisces7483 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this goes back to that whole 'male dominator' thing. Women are 'supposed' to be the 'weaker sex' and all that, and even though we know it's not that way now, some women might be worried that their man may think she's strange if she initiates a conversation, since the man is 'supposed to dominate'.
2006-06-13 11:29:11 · answer #3 · answered by Breakdancer Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they play hard to get. If a man starts talking to them they know thier into them. Also another one is they are not sure of themselves. Or don't know how to start a conversation. Or maybe your just so damn good looking you take thier breath away. Who knows the real reason. Everyone is different.
2006-06-13 11:29:17 · answer #4 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably that old fashioned 50's girl in us. I think girls naturally think of it as a man's job to step up and start it off. BUT we are in the year 2006 so your modern, assertive girl should show up any second now.
2006-06-13 11:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by KVC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's society, we have been taught for many years, that good girls don't make the first move. I try, but I always hear my Mom telling me that. How do we change? Time and practice I think
2006-06-13 11:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by teelynn35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be shy but now i don't mind making the first move in any way with a man
2006-06-13 11:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by preciousmoments1962 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i can't really start a conversation with anyone so it's not just men. it's just that we aren't used to getting rejected and most of us are scared of the emotional burn that you get when you get that crazy lonely look. so yeah stop looking at us crazy and then we'll start talkilng.
2006-06-13 11:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, personally, don't think that it is reluctancy, but maybe a social thing that has been engrained into our heads. Such as "boys don't cry" and things of that sort. Sometimes guys have the same problem, and maybe a lot of both is fear of failure. Take care.
2006-06-13 11:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by just me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some women just cant read men very well and don't pick up on signals, so we like men to make the first move - therefore we don't make a fool of yourselves.
Hope this helps x
2006-06-13 11:29:36 · answer #10 · answered by lisa j 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋