i have been married about a month and am three weeks pregnant my husband is in iraq and i am basicly alone is there any advice uot the for preparing and just info about being pregnant?
2006-06-13 10:47:35 · 13 answers · asked by little bit 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
YES.....the "What to expect when you are expecting" book was incredible......as well as the ones that follow, i.e. "what to expect newborn" "year one".....these saved countless trips to an ER for fever spikes, simple coughs, to....yes this WILL happen, baby rolling off of couch and onto floor, BUMP!! My wife pulled me out of a huge meeting when this happened to us, we did RUN to the ER and after being checked out and assured baby was fine, then we find out how pliable a babys skeletal structure is. That is why there are stories of babies falling 2-3 stories with no injuries(YIKES!!)
I forget if this was mentioned in those books or not....a funny-at-the-time comment..."because of the constant crying and screaming, many new mothers feel the urge to throw the baby out the window. You should not do this no matter the situation..."
but, at 3am with a crying baby, suddenly you understand that comment.
Good LUck and have FUN!!!!!!!
2006-06-13 11:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by arty2 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I too got pregnant right after we got married-unplanned. I am due July 8th but I am lucky that my husband is still here, (he is in the Air Force). There are so many websites out there. One I really like is babycenter.com. They have a ton of message boards so you can ask as many questions as you want. There are first time moms and moms with experience to help you along the way. I recommend the military families board and the board for the month you are due. You will get so much info!
Also go to the library and check-out, or go to the bookstore and buy, "What to Expect When You're Expecting". It is like the preggo's bible.
I wish you the best of luck, it is hard and uncomfortable at times, but you can make it!
2006-06-13 10:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by johna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, I am sorry for your situation. I'm sure you're terrified, but don't worry. It's going to seem like you're going through hell, but you will get through it. Instead of focusing on how your husband is missing everything, try focusing on your new baby! Go shopping, for yourself, too. Keep your girlfriends and family close. If they are not close, move to where they are, no matter how strong of a person you are, you need a support system right now. If you need any advice or other support, you can talk to me I have three kids, and am a stay at home, so it can really depressing sometimes. My husband works so much, he's at work before we wake up, and comes home after we're asleep. It can be really lonely, anyway, if you want to talk katiekat2203@yahoo.com, oh and a good pregnancy site is parents.com.
2006-06-13 10:59:13 · answer #3 · answered by heybitches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest meeting up with other military wives who are pregnant or have children. They can support your throughout your pregnancy and give you advice on what to expect. Not everyone's pregnancy is the same, but at least you will have people to support you. Also go to any free clinics they might have at local hospitals. They are great places to get advice on breast-feeding, prenatal classes, birthing classes, and so forth. Even if you have family around, turn to them for advice and support. Just try not to be stressed out over being pregnant, because it won't be healthy for you or the baby. Just stay calm and enjoy the fact that you have created something special.
2006-06-13 10:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by sweetlildev6969 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation except my husband was in California for training with both of my pregnancies. I too was afraid and felt very alone. A few things that helped me were:
1. Joining a group for pregnant women online
2. making friends with some other military wives who were pregnant. luckily for me we were in housing and my neighbor happened to be pregnant too.
There are plenty of military spouse groups on every base. You just have to reach out otherwise no one will know you need some support.
I hope this helps.
2006-06-13 10:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by lisa p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the book "What to Expect When you are Expecting". God Bless your husband and you. Everything will be fine. Women have been having babies for centuries. You can do this and in the end you will have a beautiful little bundle of joy. Good luck.
2006-06-13 10:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing being by ur self will be very hard. u need to find people around u to talk to. read as much stuff as u can find on having a baby and u will be just fine. if u ever need to talk to someone about this u can e-mail me. i have 2 of my own. my youngest is 7 months so i was there not to long ago. just enjoy it to. its kinda funny b/c u will keep saying get this thing out and then u will have it and say put it back in.lol. my e-mail is jennine75044@yahoo.com
2006-06-13 10:52:29 · answer #7 · answered by jennine75044 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pregnancy is scary but wonderful too. I turned to books for advice and comfort. Girlfriends guide to pregnancy kept me laughing that first trimester. You must be sad without your husband. I am sorry he is away. This time will fly by and before you know it you will be holding the most precious baby you have ever seen. Best of luck..I will be thinking of you.
2006-06-13 10:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by Jill W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, Congratulations! Second, most of what we worry about, never happens. Third, enjoy your pregnancy! Being pregnant can be one of the most wonderful experiences! At this point, maybe you have morning sickness and you aren't feeling the best...but it gets better. Feeling another life inside you is amazing once you start feeling those movements. Bond with your little one simply by educating yourself about pregnancy--buy magazines, check out pregnancy websites, join online forums, etc--and later by rubbing your belly and listening to his/her heartbeat. Learning about what happens during each stage of the fetus' developement is very fascinating (I also felt it helped bond with my child). Also, share as much as you can with your husband overseas (if he has email, send belly pictures, share the different feelings and experiences you have with him) so he can feel as much a part of this experience as possible. This is one of those times in life where gaining weight is good! Eat good, drink plenty of fluids, exercise a bit (aquatics is wonderful at about 5+ months of pregnancy, walking is always good), get plenty of rest. Be happy! Smile! And look forward to your little bundle of joy! :-)
2006-06-13 11:06:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry little mom you will be fine women have babies everyday and they do fine and you will to,just think 9 months from now you will have this beautiful little baby in your arms and maybe your husband will be home by then just hang in there it will be ok
2006-06-13 10:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by sclady62001p 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋