My matron of honor is planning my bridal shower with my mom's help. I'm concerned for her though because she will be starting law school just as she needs to really start enacting her plans for my shower. I understand its her thing but I don't want it to be an obligation just because she is my matron of honor. She'll be busy and although I know she'll do a wonderful job planning it, she has a tendency to take too many things on at once. She also micromanages - which is fine for her but I don't want her to get stressed. How do I ask her or persuade her to let someone else help? Or should I just let her be and hope for the best for her?
2006-06-13 10:44:01 · 8 answers · asked by skrablesgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My only other brides maid is a jr bridesmaid and is 14 years old. I was thinking more my mom. I don't want to hurt her feelings. I'm honored she wants to do this but I'm concerned for her well-being.
2006-06-13 10:57:25 · update #1
If she is your matron of honor, I assume you two are very close. I think you need to sit down and talk with her about your concerns. Let her know that you feel she will too much on her plate. If she insists she can do it, then let her. If not, let her know that your mom is more than willing to help out. Also, even though your jr. bridesmaid is only 14, she might like to be a part of this. Perhaps there is a job she could do to feel important. I know my bridal party is including my flower girl in the shower plans and she only 5.
2006-06-14 17:33:10 · answer #1 · answered by Joelle M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just let her do it, if she is stressed she will let you know. Some people enjoy micro managing, it's what they are good at. I'm sure she will do a great job, if she needs help give her a list of people she can contact, but give her the option to use the list or not. This is your wedding, enjoy this time of planning and let others help you make it special.
2006-06-13 20:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by tgoe_misse1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your mom call her up and offer to help, if she wants to. Some people thrive on stressful lives, so if that's how she is anyways, I wouldn't worry too much about it.
2006-06-13 18:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the bride, so everything is suppose to go the way you want it to. Tell her that you want the other bride's maids to help her.
Your wedding, your way.
2006-06-13 17:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your mom and mother in law involved, have them talk to her and make it sound like they really want to help because it's their kids wedding.
2006-06-13 18:33:47 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just ask your mom to offer to help her in any way, keep checking every once in a while to see if she needs help yet.
2006-06-13 20:34:11 · answer #6 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you dont want to risk her school grades for her wedding- tell her that mom is going to help out too.
2006-06-13 18:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by (NO) NAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is ok, why not?
2006-06-13 18:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋