why cant i understand my two 15yr old kids?

Answer 1

LOL! I totally understand this feeling! Today's teens are so different than when we were younger; sometimes I think my 14 year old is speaking a foreign language. I think it's really that the world is so different than it was, and our kids have to deal with so many things. I'm not that old, but I remember when I first started seeing ads with "www." on them, and thinking, "What's this?" I remember vinyl records, black and white t.v.s, and air conditioning as a luxury. Our kids can surf the web, load software and program the VCR before they're 7. And they *need* those skills to make it in an increasingly technical world.

Something I find to be helpful is to give my daughter her due. When she knows more than me about something, I get her to teach me. It's kind of a funny role reversal, but it increases her confidence and let's her know that I value her as a smart, capable, young lady. We talk often, and I'm not afraid to explain things or to ask for explanations. I also explore her interests, try to make connections to them, and to at least gain a basic understanding so we can converse (which has been challenging since she loves anime). Keep trying. With diligence and conversation, understanding will come. :)

Best wishes,
~Tia~

Answer 2

because you can not formulate a question properly. Maybe give some background to why you dont understand them.

we are having a problem understanding you.

Try talking to your kids and ask them what is going on in there lives. If they dont want to comply, take away stuff that they think is important like the computer or tv or video games. Usually talking to your kids will transpire into a decent relationship with them

Answer 3

Things have changed since you were a kid. A lot of kids are having unprotected sex and doing things that were forbidden when you were younger. Instead of trying to figure them out, let them live. Continue to have your rules but try to be understanding. Instead of always yelling, let them know that you are there to listen if they need you. This way they dont have to feel that you are always nagging them.

Answer 4

Just remember when you were 15. The times have changed but the principle stays the same - teenagers are into tons of fads, they want to be with their friends instead of their family, and they don't want to tell their parents anything (of course there are exceptions to this rule).
Just talk to them and spend time with them - keeping active and involved in their lives might not be easy but you should do it.

Answer 5

1) You forget what it's like to be a kid
2) Your doing to much talking and not enough listening.
3) While they're still "Kids" treat them with a little more respect and give them a little more credit for what you think they don't know. In some ways (not all) talk to them as you would an adult.

Answer 6

You're not alone. Most teens this generation usually would rather stay away from thier parents and not be embarrased. Dont worry, as they get older, you'll understand them and they will want to be more closer to thier parents; usually around age 20+.

Answer 7

Just put your self in their shoes. And try to remember when you were young. And some how some way you both can come to some understanding. But it would help if I knew the problem.

Answer 8

Without knowing more details about the problems you're having in communicating with your teens then it's impossible to offer suggestions or opinions. If you can edit your question with more information then I'm sure myself and others can offer you input that may be of help.

Answer 9

well maybe bc u refuse to move ahead with the times i got 3 teenagers (boys) n i am up to date with all the teenage stuff hell i usually have it or know bout it b4 they do..gotta keep up n keep the communication lines open with them even if u dont like some of what they say, learn, listen too or see.

Answer 10

Because you have two different perspectives. Try to look at things from THEIR prespective, before you argue with them. Give them the LOGIC behind your statements.