She wants to stay friends, but it's so difficult. She's dating someone new. I'm still so in love with her. I didn't know she wanted to dump me, but she said she gave me signs. I want to talk to her so badly all the time, but I told her I can't. So I'm not. What have you done? and what do you know about situations like this? She's one of a kind and honestly, I'd love to have her back, but I'm trying to move on. Should I keep avoiding her till she contacts me? Should I resume contact? Am I doing the right thing? Will I always be in love? lol. What is your experience!?
2006-06-13 10:17:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her desire to continue being your friend may be her way of keeping her options open. Be honest with her. Tell her you're still in love with her and you aren't able to be JUST a friend to her because it hurts too much! Break it off, forever, and begin dating immedialy. You know the story....If you love something set it free, if it comes back... you did alright...
2006-06-13 10:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
same **** happened to me. trust me... move on. take your losses and move on. Friends will never work, you will always have those feelings and there is not much you can do to change that. And a lot of times, the whole "friends" thing is just her nice way of saying ... it doesn't matter, it won't feel good to hear.
One of a kind... you're talking in love talk. You need to go out with your guys and do whatever it takes to get over it. Make sure your day (and night) is taken up with things that won't have you thinking about her all day.
Yeah, you will always think about her... but that is all you want it to be.. thoughts. Things arent working out for a reason and hopefully you are still young enough to live your life.. with someone else. I'm 21. I do.
It aint worth it to go back with the same girl... think about it. There are what... 300 million people in the U.S. 1/2 are girls, leaves you with 150 million females. Take apart the uglys, oldies, youngies, and any other weirdos inbetween... thats at least like 50,000,000 (50 million) girls to go after. Don't get stuck on 1.
2006-06-13 10:24:04 · answer #2 · answered by beardsauce 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was (and i still am) in the same situation your in. I had a girlfriend for a long time until we broke up. Don't avoid her, be her friend. If your lucky she might break up with the guy shes with and give you another chance. Or, if the guy breaks up with her, and your a really good friend she might go to you. Now, unfortunately for me lol, the girl who i love has been dating a guy for almost a year now, and it doesnt seem like its gonna end soon. The best thing to do is get over the breakup quickly, become her friend, and love her inside, never on the outside, or shell not talk to you.
2006-06-13 10:22:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dan K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the world of hard knocks. I am sorry that that happened to you but you are now in a stage where you feel that your heart has been ripped out of your chest. There is no cure. You must go on. Your friends will help you through this. I know because I was crazy for a girl who I married, had kids with, and when I was deployed in Iraq, she left me for another guy. She took everything in the house. I never see my kids now because they are in another state. They have email and I talk to them but she ripped my heart out. Time is the only thing that heals. The good news is I found another girl who is ten times better and she loves me soooo much. You will survive this. Good luck.
2006-06-13 10:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by reparmn37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on..and hang out with your friends..try to meet other girls...try not to think about her too much. It will be very difficult..but its possible. You might want to put away stuff she gave you and some of your photos you have lying around..so you won't obsess.
To put it simply, if you cannot deal with seeing her date another guy, you should move on. I don't think you could remain friends with her because..she could marry another guy in the future..and jealously can't be there if you are friends..I think you made the right decision.
2006-06-13 10:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by Mav17 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. She said she was "gave you signs", in other words, she probably banged another dude while still being with you. Once again I say, "Move on". You'll meet another chick at some point. In the meantime, have fun! That chick is no longer worthy of you!
2006-06-13 10:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move On and Just forget her, Best way is to get another girl, Maybe temporarily if not forever. Good Luck ;-)
2006-06-13 10:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by jattt_top_te 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have no contact with her until you are over her. look at it this way, she didn't take long in getting over you if she has a new BF, did she?
she may want to be friends but she's not considering your feelings.......
as i said, break all contact until you are over her. then it will be easier to resume a friendship.
2006-06-13 10:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by Jan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay friends and move on. You need to start dating other people. If you're lucky she'll fall for you again.
2006-06-13 10:21:59 · answer #9 · answered by bobmonkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on see her when u can't bear not seeing her and move on. be friends a year or two from now.give ur emotions a break.
2006-06-13 10:22:23 · answer #10 · answered by brenwrr5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋