if you are 15 and have a 2 year old babi boi and the father has a drug problem what should be done?

Answer 1

Hello,
Your actions are dependant on the drug and frequencey of the problem. If he is willing to get help[ and step up, then be God's child and help him. But sometimes a problem can be so bad that they have to hit rock bottom in order to climb up. He is your babys daddy, save him if you can. What ever you do, dont give him any money to supply his habbit. Now go kiss your baby and thank The Lord you have him.

Answer 2

First and foremost priority is that 2 year old child. The father should be allowed to be a part of his life after he has proved he has kicked the drug addiction and held down a job for at least a year. Hopefully your family will be willing to help with with the extremely difficult task of raising a toddler and getting your education. You should try to finish high school and go to college to give your son the best future you can. If you do decide to put him up for adoption as someone suggested (strongly hope you do not take this route) maybe you can get a family member to adopt him so you can still be a part of his life. Hopefully they will help you and that will not be necessary.

Secondly you must consider yourself. You are very young still and have more responsibilities than most girls your age. Do you really want the added hassles of dealing with a drug dependent boy? Do you want to take the chance that the police will show up while he is with you and your son? Do you want to run the risk of the state taking custody of your baby because you let his tweaked out father visit? These are just some of the things that could happen. Can you deal with the consequences if you stay with this guy and he does not get help for his addiction. If he is willing to go through detox and rehab be supportive but get rid of him if he isn't.

Answer 3

This is a tuff one because of your young age but you should talk to your partner about getting some kind of treatment if he wants to stay involved in both your childs life and yours. If that doesn't work than my advise is for you to leave him because inthe long run this situation is going to end up hurting both u and your child. I know that it is going to be difficult for you becsue you are so young and have achild to care for but you will be better off by yourself, you can ask a friend or a relative to help you out with shelter while you get astable job and are able to get back on your feet. trust me the worst thing you can do is stay like this and act like if nothing is and will happen cause later on when something goes bwrong you are going to regret it besides you need a better future for your baby. Because you don't want him following "daddy's footsteps" hop that you make the corect decisions and don't let your age or fear hold u back on resolving this matter. good luck ,

Answer 4

A minor mother and a drug dependent father don't actually sounds very promising. Give up the child for adoption because both parents are irresponsible. The child deserves a better environment to grow up in.

Answer 5

Your first priority should be to take care of that little guy. Get rid of your boyfriend until he can straighten up. Your son shouldn't be around that stuff. You don't want to end up losing your child if for some reason he has that stuff around him and law enforcement gets involved.

Who's more important your son or his father?

Just think about it. Let him take care of his problem.

If he doesn't want help than get rid of him.

The only way you should even think about adoption is if you cannot care for your child adequately. Adoption is a very loving choice and it takes alot of guts on a mothers end. I have been faced with that decision plenty. If you love your child you will give him the best life possible. Like I said you have two options: Adoption (wouldn't recommend if you can take care of him); or leave your boyfriend if he doesn't get help.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

Although you have to grow up fast now due to your baby boy, I urge you to stay in school and finish High School. You should live with your parents... expose the child to have strong ties with your parents so they have elder figures. Once the child is growing up, allow your baby boy to have strong relationships with your father and brothers. You should read to your baby a lot as well, it's the best way and cheapest incentive for him to learn. Tell him you love, care and nourish the child every day so he feels loved unconditionally.

Answer 7

At 15 you shouldn't be having sex

But since it is too late, stay away from the father until he gets clean. He is no role model for a young child.

Answer 8

Keep your baby away from the dad until he has proven himself. If after the baby is older and wonders what happened to daddy, tell him the truth. Let him know his father had other priorities in his life.

Answer 9

I am a single mom myself, but I would tell you to tell the father to either go to drug counseling and/or detox or he will get to see his child less and less. Then once he is able to work a steady job (which at your age I doubt) you file for child support.

Answer 10

You know the answer to that one.... You only have one life to live and you need to think of your child and yourself, cause no one else is going to do it for you...... If that is what he chooses to do with his life, then you need to show your child another part of life that don't include drug's....... This man doesnt' think enough of you or your child to clean up his act and be a man........ there is a baby there now, and its not going to change........ If this isn't the life you don't want to live you know the answer yourself......... take care of your baby and yourself...........