My husband is in the Marine Corp. He can be so romantic, sweet, and charming, BUT when i try to talk with him on an emotional level about my feelings or his, he's just not there. Its quite frustrating...Is this because he's a man, or does the military play some part in this issue? Any adivce will help me to understand this problem.
2006-06-13 10:11:06 · 8 answers · asked by dlmvm0612 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I don't think it's necessarily the military that makes men unable to communicate their emotions. I think the military (especially the USMC) tends to attract the sort of people who tend to withold their feelings, i.e., the macho types.
The military does offer a lot of resources for mental health for problems like PSTD and depression. But it's up to soldiers to recognize they have problems before they can get help.
In your case, your guy has trouble articulating his feelings. It could be that he's too immature to describe what he's feeling, or that he's just being macho and think tht feelings are or wimps (happens to a lot of folks). I doubt it's the USMC that's keeping him from opening up.
Just coax it out of him slowly. Let him know that it's okay to describe things in small, simple bits. The more he practices describing his thoughts and feelnigs, the better he will be with it.
2006-06-13 10:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by Gumdrop Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A Marine is taught to be a Machine, a War Machine to go in to battle to get the job done and get out. Marines are tough and trained to be tough. Marines deal with a lot of emotional issues and stress on a daily basis. Then again the toughest they say in the Marine Corps is being a Marines wife for the emotional stress you go through as well. It comes down to appreciating the times and days or moments that each of you are romantic and sweet, the little things are whats important, if he will open up then he will in time, appreciate when he is those things and be patient.
Patience is a Virtue.
2006-06-13 11:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by usmcmike1978 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with the military. Though I am a Marine Corps Veteran it's just the nature of men in general. Men don't normally talk about their emotions but display it by their actions. Men are problem solvers, mission oriented and show their emotions by their actions mainly.
I have been married for three years and I still have some rough edges from my ten years of service. But if the two of you really want things to work out it will take alot of patience, forgiving, understanding and perseverance by the two of you.
Don't give up and most of all, don't come to your own conclusions.
2006-06-13 10:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in accordance to the media, females are meant to be comfortable and emotional, at the same time as adult men are meant to be manly and coach a lot less emotion. more often than not, females are better emotional than adult men. If a lady isn't shown as being emotional and comfortable, our society needs to variety her as an uncaring and spiteful woman. That being stated, some adult men are showing merely as a lot emotion, which appears the outcome of years suppressing their thoughts. you'll argue that being emotional is a female trait, really the way the media talks about it. yet, i'd could say someone who's merely too emotional is an quite disturbed human being mentally. i'm no longer very emotional, yet i'm a favorable human being.
2016-10-14 03:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in the military they "train" their men to have little or no sensetivity at all because for them showing that you care or any other type of emotion is considered a sign of weakness. Also many "men" are afrais to show their emotions because they feel that women are thee only ones who cry and care fro othes so they don't want to be compared to women.
2006-06-13 10:19:24 · answer #5 · answered by chikis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that men in general don't like to have talks about emotions and feelings. I am also in the military , but I don't think that has anything to do with it. -- It doesn't mean he doesn't care about what you have to say. I'm sure he loves you, it is just hard for men to talk about "feelings".
2006-06-13 10:18:44 · answer #6 · answered by napolibill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has much more to do with men than the military. The military training does focus on trying to ingrain certain actions to prevent panic when men are under fire. However, I don't think Parris island has a obstacle course where men are constantly under fire with questions from women. lol
2006-06-13 10:16:02 · answer #7 · answered by tornpie99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the military the reason they stress not to cry or show signs of fear is for the good of your platoon. Whenever your men see that you are scared they become scared and start doubting theirselve as soldiers (of course im only talking about in battle), same as crying.
2006-06-19 08:31:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋