Why do children raised in a Christian family, usually leave the church after they get out on their own?

Answer 1

After being in such a tight family setting at a church you grow up in, it is hard to leave that just like anything else. You know that nothing else will ever be like that place that let you grow and think and love. So sometimes you learn to worship on your own and seclude yourself. It is a time of growing, you get to grow the way you want, try out different things. Besides as you can see from some of the other answers, some people are mean about you being who you want to be and in such a turbulent time sometimes we try to fit in by staying away from God. Luckily God does not stay away from you. It is a hard time of exploring, sometimes we stand alone in hopes of finding ourselves.

Answer 2

The problem with raising a religious family in the United States is that we have options.

Almost every religion is worshiped here, but instead of allowing a child to explore the details of a religion and find one that bests suits them, religious parents deem their own religion the best one for their child.

This, I imagine, is partly to bolster their religious affiliations numbers. I also consider that it's a form of ego-centrism; my way of thinking is better than everyone elses.

However, in the US, when a child is forced to do one thing all the time, they will be curious as to what lays beyond the parental-imposed walls. When they leave, they will consider whether or not religion is something they believe in or was something they forced to act like they believed in. Some will stop worshiping, others will stop and then return on their own accord. Still others will find another place of worship that has an idealogy that matches their own beliefs.

In my opinion, parents who force a child to follow their own religion might be giving them a good moral base to grow from, but are denying them individuality to do so. On the flip side, I don't believe the moral base needs to be taught by a church, but with the crappy quality of people today, it's probably more capable than some parents.

Answer 3

umm, i don't think they do. im not planning on leaving the church. well, maybe someday ill move and find a church of the same faith, but i think u mean the christian church in general. i don't know, but the ones who leave might feel like it's a way of freeing themselves. i no that sometimes i kinda feel like a have no choice when it comes to church. im grateful for it though. im glad my parents picked the right church for me. ive grown up with christianity, its my way of life. to some it may feel more like chains because they resent not being able to make choices. maybe their parents asked what would jesus do when they got in trouble, and now if the can get the wwjd out they can be free, which isn't really the case. sometimes we are ''burdened'' by what we know we should do, but more than often, God and the church are a safe place to hide.

Answer 4

That's an excellent question. I know I did that and my dad was a minister. After I moved out I didn't go to church for close to 2 decades. However, that doesn't mean I gave up on God. And I'm happy to report that I have started going back to church, another denomination though, and my family goes with me, my children love it.

Answer 5

If their young and free thinkers, sometimes they see the hypocrisy that goes on around them, like people in church spouting one thing, be it love and caring for each other, and when they get out of church the words don't mean a thing,its like some christians lead double lives, by their actions.

Answer 6

I'm one of them. Well after growing up in a Christian environment all through my childhood and early teens, I still did not understand the concept of God. Obviously something was not right with that religion with me.

I did not feel true Love among Christians. I felt a lot of fear, judgment and hypocracy. It did not feel right in my heart. I walked my own path and studied spirituality from all corners to learn more about who I am, why I am here, and so on.

It was not until I was in my mid-20's that I finally understood God. It took a very different perspective and explanation for me to get it. It was through Native American spirituality that I "got it".

After studying spirituality and various religious philosophies for 17 years, I found my home to be what Amma teaches. I've since been learning a lot about Hinduism for the past year. I fell in love with the philosophies and have learnt so much from Amma that has contributed to greater Love in my life and brought me so much closer to God than ever.

This is a path that felt right for my Soul. I was meant to be here at this point. We each all have different paths. Not all who grow up Christian will feel at home with that religion.

Answer 7

Because they are trying to be sure that this is the best way, however notice most of them come back when they're older even if its not the same exact denomination they still lead religious lives.

Answer 8

Because they didn't like Church but, they were forced to go.

Answer 9

they try to find themselves on their own most always return to church though but it may take a while

Answer 10

Because they were sheltered all their lives and want to experience whats out in the world.