I don't want to go to her wedding, one am not in it. two I don't like him and three I don't want to answer questions to why I am not married yet.
2006-06-13 09:59:35 · 24 answers · asked by Sessa F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi
First of all do you and your sister get along, if so I would say that is your sister's big day and you need to be there for (her) not him. Blood is thicker than water(although not always) just think about how you can help your sister get through her big day and ignore her husband for whatever reasons you and him don't get along. So what if you are not in the wedding you are in her life.....
2006-06-13 10:05:58 · answer #1 · answered by justagirl2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how many sisters you have but......if she appreciates you being there, you should make an effort for her. If you hurt her that day by not coming, you can never turn it back.
Best thing to do is sit down with your sister and have an open talk about how you feel. Maybe you can work things out. She can stop asking why you are not married for instance, and you can ask why you are not involved in the wedding. Maybe its a great day to make up things that have been standing between the 2 of you for years and make a fresh start.....
2006-06-13 17:06:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kathy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's her choice to make (obviously), and you're going to have to deal with this guy at family functions and such.
This is your sister, and it's her wedding day. Suck it up for a few hours. Sorry to sound harsh, but geez. If someone asks why you're not married yet, smile and say you haven't found the right person. People ask inappropriate or nosy questions everywhere, not just weddings.
2006-06-13 17:05:14 · answer #3 · answered by circe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is actually your obligation to be there for her. But if you think that you will ruin the occasion by behaving badly, then tell her that you don't want to sound selfish or childish, and that you obviously have issues that needs to be settled first.
But if you ask me, you should set aside your personal feelings and just be happy for her; and go to the wedding. If you love your sister, you should support her every step of the way. Because that's what families are for. Supporting and caring for each other.
Also, you are not marrying the guy --- she is. You are not going to live with him --- she will. And in the future, you might actually want to enjoy your would-be nieces/nephews.
2006-06-13 17:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by Bu Ang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all about you isn't it, it's your sisters day now go and support her and be happy for her regardless of what you think of her husband to be she's marrying him not you. Regarding the you don't want to answer questions about why your not married yet this is what I tell people but I have a boyfriend don't know if you do or don't but I tell them "if it isn't broke why fix it?" And if it's someone who isn't married I say "Why aren't you married?" That usually shuts them up.
2006-06-13 17:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by MOVING 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to really think this over before not going. My cousin was married 5 years ago and my other cousin didn't come because he didn't want her marrying the guy, well it has caused a nasty rift in the family that is still going to this day. Please put your feelings aside....be them right or wrong, and share your sister's day. Life is just too short. Anyway i'm sure she will marry him if your there or not or iregardless of your opinion of him, so just go and try to have a nice time. Good luck and have fun.
2006-06-13 17:09:50 · answer #6 · answered by softlyinspired 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have people that we just don't get along with, and that's normal. However, you have to ask yourself whether or not your reasons for not going are about your comfort, happiness, etc. rather than yours sister's. If it's about you, then put a smile on and be there for your sister. Years from now, she'll remember that you were there for her even when it wasn't comfortable for you. In the end, family is all you have, and you don't want to lose that in exchange for making yourself happy for a day.
Dr. R
2006-06-13 17:09:05 · answer #7 · answered by Chris R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still think you should go to her wedding. Not for her husband, not for you, for your sister. She would heartbroken if you didn't come. I know I would be if my brother didn't come to my wedding.
So even if you really don't want to go, do it for your sister. That should be a good enough reason to go. Do it for her, and only her..
2006-06-13 17:06:04 · answer #8 · answered by beadnboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go. Be courteous to everyone and just go. Remember, it is her day, and you aren't the one marrying her future husband. She is. You don't have to like him. And who cares if people ask why you are not married. If people ask, tell them that you are seriously thinking of becoming a nun and are taking the time to pray to God for your answer.
2006-06-13 17:41:02 · answer #9 · answered by Mande 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you want to start a major dissention in your family, you should go and keep your opinions to yourself. At least on the wedding day.
2006-06-13 17:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by kluppy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋