My fiance asked me to marry him on valentines weekend this year without a ring and I didn't mind at the time. He just doesn't have the money to buy me my engagement ring he keeps saying he'll save and get it but he hasnt. We still have some time before we are actually getting married (March of next year), but I want a ring. I feel funny going to look at wedding dresses or even just telling people we are engaged wearing his class ring. I make a little more money thatn him and I could afford to buy it myself but he won't let me. How do I approach this without hurting his feelings?
2006-06-13 09:32:13 · 9 answers · asked by grizzliesgurl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I dont think I made myself clear he cannot come up with the extra $150 the ring I want costs and I have the money. He doesnt have the extra cash, I am buying everything else why can't I buy this too.
2006-06-13 10:30:04 · update #1
Explain this to him. I got engaged without a ring. I explained how much a ring meant to me. He could not afford a ring either so we sat down and looked at different options. I ended up getting a ring at a consignment store for very inexpensive and it turned out to be exactly what I wanted in the end. I know right now it seems like a huge deal but now that I have been married for a while, I look back and realize that a ring was the least of my worries! But, if you really want a ring, make sure he knows!
2006-06-13 13:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by c77 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I bought and designed my own engagement ring. And I got it from WalMart.com. It will not make him less of a man. My now-husband loved the ring and was glad that he didn't have to deal with the stress of me liking the ring or sizes or anything like that. Just sit him down, show him the ring, and tell him that you want it and you want it now. He should understand. If not maybe you should reconsider the marriage at all. Just something to think about. PS-He's the money maker of he house. It didn't hurt him at all.
2006-06-13 10:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it. Explain to him how you feel and ask his opinion. Tell him you feel awkward using his class ring as an engagement ring. You could always go the route of using a simple cubic zarconian ring until he is able to get you one that you really like. It would get you out of having to explain why his class ring is acting as your ring and it would also make it less stressful than it is now.
The MOST important thing is talking to him about it and telling him how you feel. If you can't do that, then you shouldn't be getting married.
2006-06-13 12:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by beckyg_98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he was serious when he asked you to marry him? A lot of guys say it when they don't have a ring to buy time with the person, basically. Why doesn't he get you a ring that he can afford...it shouldn't matter how much it is if you love him enough.
2006-06-13 10:46:01 · answer #4 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you buy the ring yourself, you will have made the first step toward making him feel less a man.
The most important way for a man to prove his love is to be the provider.
If you won't let him provide your ring,
he'll always wonder if you feel that whatever he can do for you isn't good enough.....especially if it would be an expensive piece of jewelry.
2006-06-13 09:50:45 · answer #5 · answered by Cookie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Request a jewelry catalogue. Leave it on the sofa right by the remore control. When he comes home sit down and browse thru it cassualy and tell him.. " Oh, I love this design,...look! and is reasonably priced...what do you think?"
Another option is to buy a engagement/bridal ring set and you can both on your wedding day or have one of them on the rehearsal dinner.
This issue will be adressed, is his responsability but you know men..they have their own time tables and do everything at the last time.
By no means buy your own ring....
Good luck
2006-06-13 10:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy tell him to back off you have to wear watch it and clean it it should be your choice. You know what you like and if you want to buy the ring it doesnt matter hell thank you later on in the marriage besides hes your husband not your dad he doesnt have to pay for anything.
2006-06-13 12:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by savethepenguins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you'll have to wait til he has the $150. I can't picture a guy wanting you to buy the ring.
2006-06-13 13:35:35 · answer #8 · answered by daisy519 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how important this is to you. If he is secure, he will allow you to do this. However, make him spend time with you shopping for the ring, so at least he will feel involved and that his time was important to you.
2006-06-13 10:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by oldmanthecat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋