Dispute on what children wear in clothing?

Question

My son and his ex-girlfriend have a 20 month old son together. They do not live together but share joint custody of the child. When mom has the boy she dresses him in all top notch designer clothing such as Nautica,Polo,& ect. When my son has is son, he dresses him in clothing that is purchased at Wal-mart, Target, clothing in which he feels is satisfactory and affordable for him. The other day when she picked up her son, she made a comment to the father to "quit dressing our son like a dork" . In my personal opinion and my son's opinion he is only 20 months old and growing fast, and at this point he does not need all these expensive clothes. What do the rest of you think, I think she is pretty anial and uppity about clothing for her child.

Answer 1

the baby doesn't care what he's wearing, the mom just has a conspicuous consumption complex... she has to "show off" how well to do she is (or how high her spending limit is on her credit cards)...i think the day may come when the credit cards are all maxed out, and winter is comming... she will be glad for warm sweaters from target...(unless her parents bail her out)

Answer 2

I think she is a little crazy for buying designer clothing for a 20 month old especially at the rate that they grow. And not only that, but kids that age (and every age really) are getting into things and making messes and dirtying their clothes and it's a waste of money to buy them expensive clothes when they are (for lack of a better word) going to trash them. If she really wants their son to be dressed in designer clothes, she should really try ebay or something where she can get them cheap that way she's not wasting as much money when he outgrows or stains them. Your son is being the smart one by getting him cheaper clothing from walmart and places like that. I think that maybe your son's ex is worried what people think about her being a young, single mother and by dressing her son in expensive clothing I think she feels like people think more of her. Try to put some sense into her head and tell her that kids don't need designer clothing until they are old enough to appreciate it. Right now, he's 20 months old and could care less what the lables on his clothes say.

Answer 3

I think anyone who dresses a child (anywhere from newborn to early teenager) in name brand clothing should be tarred and feathered. Kids grow SO fast, and by the time they've worn the outfit once or twice, they've already out grown it! There are so many things that are better that your son's ex gf could be buying their baby...BOOKS, educational toys, admission to the local science museum or zoo, etc. Tell her to quit wasting so much money on clothes for that baby. My kids live in clothes from Target, Wal Mart, etc. The only time they get other brands is when my family buys them for Christmas/Birthday etc., and even then, it's usually just Babies R' Us brand.

Honestly, when I see children dressed in super expensive clothing, I feel sorry for them. It makes me wonder if the parents are buying this expensive stuff to make up for something else that's lacking. Possibly never spending time with the child, always dumping him off on a babysitter, etc. I think there's nothing wrong with your son buying clothes from Wal Mart. Babies/toddlers are supposed to wear inexpensive clothes because they're just going to ruin them anyway, lol!

If she has THAT much money to blow, tell her to put it to good use and donate it to March of Dimes, Red Cross, etc. What a complete waste of money...buying a 20 month old designed clothes. What is WRONG with some people?

Answer 4

In your opinion is the ex-girlfriend a material girl herself? I personally do not believe that children, especially infants and toddlers need expensive clothes. They just grow to fast. I bought my 9 month old niece an Easter dress. A month later she didn't fit in it anymore. My suugestion would be to show the ex-girlfriend how fast her son is growing and that the expensive clothes is just running too high of a bill. If all else fails, your son can always dress his son in imitation designer clothes.

Answer 5

Personally, I feel clothing from Wal-Mart and Target is fine to dress a young child in. If he is dressed in fancy clothes while he is young, when he is older he could really put you out of money by always wanting top notch clothing. I am fine with what I wear, and sometimes it can be from a garage sale.

Answer 6

If she's like this now, what will she be like when he's older. Ouch, can you imagine the clothing bill.

I guess as long as the father isn't required to pay half the bill for the clothing she buys the little nipper, who cares how she dresses him.

There's nothing wrong with buying clothing from Target and Wal-Mart as long as it's decent quality. Hey, my mom buys clothing from thrift stores, consignment shops and rummage sales for her grandkids. Kids grow out of clothes so fast or shred them playing so why spend lots of money on them.

Thank God she's not your daughter-in-law and you don't have to spend as much time with her.

Answer 7

my sister does her daughter the same way and it drives me nuts...it is pride you want your kid to be the best at everything and have the best of everything, not saying your son does not want the same but he obviously does not want to go broke trying to keep up with the Jones's, so to speak. My sister is always in competition with everybody and it is reflecting in her daughter's spoiled brat attitude, love my neice, but she is spoiled and acts a bit stuck up...she is 6 now. I think the fact that your son is putting forth effort to care for his son shows a lot and also how he dresses his son when in his custody shows a lot of how great a mom you were in your upbringing of your children, he knows life takes sacrifice and at least he is providing for his son even if it is not the latest styles and fashions....do you really think a 20 month old will remember what they had when they get older...plus they grow so fast at that point, you cant keep forkin out big bucks......humility is something that maybe the mother needs to go through to realize what is truly important in life

Answer 8

I defiantly agree with you. Society just makes people believe that your worth more and you'll get farther in life if you dress well. But a baby ain't going nowhere but a stroller. Some people are just too into fashion and what not. Look at celebrities buying $500 strollers and diamond pacifiers. Once the money runs out she'll learn, and if not he'll grow up following trends...yuk

Answer 9

What a sad waste of money, when all that clothing budget could be spent on a college fund! Luckily, the child will be old enough soon to choose what he wants to wear and will probably insist on the same outfit every single day till it falls off of him.

But the mother ought to get a grip and straighten out her priorities.

Answer 10

Honey, my kids r raised on clothes from wal mart and target! Not everyone can afford to WASTE their money on clothes that will only be worn for a short period of time. And, in my opinion, it's not the name on the shirt that makes it acceptable or unacceptable. Tell her to lighten up! lol

Answer 11

I agree with you and your son on this one. I see no reason whatsoever to buy expensive clothing for a child who is going to outgrow them within a few months time. The teenage years are going to be expensive enough - save the money now while you can!