What should I do? Do I wait or do I move on???

Question

I told this guy that I hang out w/ a lot that I liked him,b/c the kid flirts w/ me alot so I thought I had a chance. Well obviously not, he said he didn't like me like that. Well instead of us getting distant like most teenagers, we become closer, closer than ever, and I thought what is going on? Why would he want to get closer? So he starts walking w/ me to class, even to my locker which is out of the way for me being that is across campus. Well we went to a friends house and we played hide and seek in the dark, he held my hand 2wice which he initiated and then we got to kissing distance in the dark but nothing happened. And then he made me hide in the shower w/ him. So I was like ok, that was weird but hot. So a few months later I asked him again if he liked me and that he is making it hard for me to get over him b/c he keeps flirting w/ me. He replies with "Well I'm sorry and that I cant help it I am just a big flirt" Do I get over him or should I wait around and see if he comes to?

thanks! haha in response to elisiolloyd's answer alot of ppl at school say he is gay. It is quite sad though. I dont think he is. I am still undecided but I will definetly keep everybody's repsonses in consideration

It's sucks because he is like one of my best friends. I think about him all the time. He was the only person I wanted to call when I saw X3 and was super excited that I had to tell someone. Its tearing me apart. Should I confront him one more time?

maybe its just me but alot of the responses make him look like a bad guy..i dont think he is though..we both have good christian backgrounds and stuff. Im still on the fence. I dont want to think that he is a player or anything..ugh this is frustrating

Answer 1

If he cannot be honest about his feelings or atleast stop playing games with you, I say forget about him as soon as possible!

Answer 2

Girl...I went out with a guy (my ex) who was a huge flirt and he also admitted it openly. I fell in love with him and I'm sure he loved me genuinely, but got a fright when he began to realise how much I loved him. He used to tell me every two seconds he loved me, which grew to be anoying, and he wanted to hold my hand as well, like all the time, not caring how I felt.

It's cute and fun for a while. But for heavens sakes!!!! get away from him. I got extremely badly hurt. We're still not over each other and he wants me back, but I told him to stay away. It's driving me crazy, but I know I'd be stupid to get back with him. Many reasons why.

Tell him..."I want friendship only, if you can't handle that and have to flirt with me romantically/sexually, and hold my hand I have no time for you (and don't you dare go back on your words, ever-big mistake if you do)." If he can handle friendship, go with it as long as he is friends on YOUR terms. If you're not happy with having a relationship with him, express it and live it. If you want a relationship, tell him, and if he doesn't step up to the game, again on your terms until he's got the message that you don't just want a player for a b/f, then tell him to stay away. Do whatever you can to stay away.

If he respects you, he'll do either option. Tough one. Sound like he's scared.

If you don't want to get hurt, know what you want and be honest with yourself. Don't let those little voices in your head say "but I love him." If he's hitting you and you're saying "but I love him" its a similar situation, he's playing with your emotions and doesn't deseve your time or space. Do what's best for you. At the end of the day, that's who counts most...you. Be nice about it. But don't get caught or dragged into anything. Just be you. Know what you want and go for it. Be reasonable and responsible.

Answer 3

I remember that old high school game. That guy knows that you like him a lot, and that is why he is doing that to you! He's torturing you on purpose. He doesn't want to be with you, but wants to keep you by his side just in case. Girl get over him!

Answer 4

Move on! Play the field! But here's the key to getting him back don't call him don't talk to him for awhile and act like you don't care any more he'll want you back when you play hard to get.

Answer 5

MOVE ON GIRL!!! This is just pathetic waiting for the same guy. There are many fish in the sea. Go catch another one, this one has gotten old.

Answer 6

If you want him, you be the big flirt, you take control, of the flirting, and make him come to you. Use the god given charm you have.

Answer 7

he's a goof...he likes you but doesn't want you to know it really. as for being a big flirt..yeah whatever. sounds to me like he likes you but is affraid to make a solid commitment on it. you can wait around if ya want, but you might be bwasting your time in the end

Answer 8

flirt with him just to get back with him. you know make him come around. but get over him. i'm sorry he's just a man hore. there's a guy like that @ my skewl. he does that to me like almost the same. so that's what I did and he asked me out and I said no just to make him mad. he still hasn't gotten over me.

Answer 9

Get rid of this loser...he's just using you and will continue as long as you let him. He already told you he's just a big flirt..Open those Eyes girl . . . . .

Answer 10

Move on. Relationships shouldn't be about games. Besides, maybe he's confused about his sexuality or maybe he enjoys stringing you along. Find someone else.