not that in a sense of not liking the kids but, when one is more responsible and mature than the other. Someone please help. I don't have children and I really need to help someone.
2006-06-13 09:13:43 · 34 answers · asked by spreetray 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's not smart to have a favorite child!! It's not fair to the kids, especially the less-loved ones, but even to the more-loved one. Kids know.
Parents *don't* love each child equally, but they don't necessarily love one *more* than another. You love each child differently, but there's no number associated with it!!
2006-06-13 09:24:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if a parent feels an affinity for one child over the other, I think its their moral responsability to hide it completely from the kids. I had two brothers, we are all really close and love each other a lot, but we always were looking for differences in how our parents treated us. Its a competative sibling thing, and it would have made one of us an easy target for teasing. My parents made a huge deal out of treating us equally for almost everything (they still do it, although not as precisely, even though we're in our 20s now). As each kid proves their trustworthiness and maturity, the same levels of responsabilities were added. We didn't get anything without earning it, so it was more defensible when one of us got to do some thing special.
2006-06-13 09:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by ciaobella_usa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe how many people answered that it is normal to feel this way. As a mom I can't imagine picking a favorite.
As, a child I always knew my sister was the favorite. To this day, I am 28 now, she is still the favorite. It's so wrong. And, yes it is immoral. I had a lot of emotional issues and to an extent still do.
As if your kids won't notice. Puh-lease. Your kidding yourself. And, it will only harm them in the end.
2006-06-13 10:17:44 · answer #3 · answered by Baby #3 due 10/13/09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda is, but in the same sense hard not too, but keep in mind children can pick up on things like that, and the least favorite will act out more. And eventually the favoritism will cause alot of strife and bad feelings between the siblings.... not a good thing trust me.
2006-06-13 09:20:54 · answer #4 · answered by Hold em Rox 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is always understandable because each kid will have their own personalities, and usually as parents one tends to show the difference from one child to the other depending on the bond that you share with that one child which is closer to you, but one, as the parent, REALLY needs to be able to not show any difference when they are TOGETHER.. I mean, you can praise that mature, responsible one, but when you guys are together, and praise the other one, for whatever you can find... The one that feels left out in the family, is usually the one that feels unloved and unwanted, therefore, that one is the one that needs the most attention because he/she will be dealing with emotional issues which may affect his/her life... Remember, that mature and responsible, has proven to be just that, therefore, he does not need the extra attention...
2006-06-13 09:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's horribly unfair to the children and that it's a wrong thing to do. It's okay to perhaps favor one child more, after all... we're all human... but when the parent starts to show that they like the other child more. Ergo... if they give that child more Patience or more attention and items. Parents should love both their children equally and it's bad for the children when they can tell or if they feel they are being neglected compared to their other children.
2006-06-13 09:19:16 · answer #6 · answered by Mimblewimble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not feel that it is wrong. You LOVE your children the same, but you may LIKE one a little more than the other. I don't think you actually "pick" a favorite, but I do think that you bond closer to one. We all have different personalities.
I feel that this is a typical situation and grandparents go through it too! If your friend is closer to one, that is nothing to be concerned with UNLESS he/she is putting the other child/children in the sidelines for attention and love.
2006-06-13 09:28:00 · answer #7 · answered by kimmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. Every child should be loved equally in their family. Each child will suffer emotionally in their family unit if they are the favorite or not. I have 3 children and would never pick a favorite or have the desire to. They aren't colors, they are human beings. Each one has their own unique qualities that I love. It is equal for us.
2006-06-13 09:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 kids and, subconciously, yes I prefer one over the other. I think it's the difference between a girl n a boy, but who knows. All I know is my daughter is so much more well behaved than my son I tend to let her get away with more and I hate the idea of favoritism
2006-06-13 09:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
With my children my "favorite" changed several times, but as a parent you should never let the children know who is your current favorite.
Often times if one child is sick or needs more help they become the favorite and the more responsible one is more like a co-parent.
2006-06-13 09:16:55 · answer #10 · answered by Sean 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 3 kids. I wouldn't say I have a favorite, but I do have a child that is most like me and is easier to get along with. I tend to hang out with him more. I have a 10 mo and she's cake. My middle tests me all the time so I don't have a great relationship with him. I love them all the same but yes it is easier with the others.
2006-06-13 09:19:23 · answer #11 · answered by wopalockapino 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋