My husband and I are thinking about number 2. So many people say it's 10x the work. We are both on the fence

Question

My husband has a son from a previous relationship, so I am not worried about my daughter not having a sibling

Answer 1

Don't listen to what other people say. Of course the more kids you have the more work it will be. But look at it this way, it will also mean having more to love, more reasons to smile, more hands to hold, more playtime, more trips to the park, more giggles in the house, more reasons to go and explore the back yard, the reasons are endless! It seems like this what the both of you want, so go ahead and have some more pitter patter of little feet!

Answer 2

I just wanted to share this with you. I am single and have no children, never-the-less last week I went to visit my friend who just had her second about 3 weeks ago and let me put it this way, I had to let myself in since she had a baby on each hip. She then proceeded to announce how she couldn't wait to get back to work. Her husband no longer is a part of the poker circle and both are looking as if they haven't seen the back of their eyelids in days.

So while I don't know if it is 10x the work...it sure as hell seems like it.

How old is the son and maybe he can be a help. That's how my mom managed 5 kids. I was considered an endentured servant for years.

Good luck!

Answer 3

To tell you the truth, 2 kids are not that much different than 1. When the new baby grows a little, your oldest will have a playmate. My oldest wasnt jealous of a new baby, just excited. When the "new" wore off his little brother, everything went back to normal..Just make sure you get the new one on the same nap schedule that you oldest has. Everyone can take a nap at the same time and wake up rested and ready to go!!

Answer 4

Excuse me I have to go number 2! LOL! J/K!! I have almost 7 and it is well worth everyday! A lot of people are different but I couldn't imagine being an only child, how far apart are the children already in the home? It can be challenging at times, but oh so fun.

Answer 5

My number two has so far been the easiest. He came 4 1/2 years after number one. Number three came 15 months later...that was the tough one. I say it is different for everyone, but the spacing seems to make a difference, if you ask me. We are expecting number 4 now, so I say the more the merrier, but it will be a change at first.

Answer 6

Unless you're ready for another child in all manners, you should wait. I can't say it's more or less work but it is a life style change. If you're content the way your life is and you don't feel you're missing out on anything, then why change it? We currently have two children, ages 11 and 6, with the oldest being autistic. We're expecting our third any time now and my biggest worry is how the oldest will accept his younger brother.

Answer 7

I say have your child if you can finanal afford it, I have a 41/2 girl and 2 yr old boy we manage and make ends meet they love each other and have fun togther I wanted my kids to be close in age and enjoy each other and help and have fun together,
At 1st we were unsure and found out I was pregant we worried but now we love every moment of it and we deal with all the happy and bad moments.
I just love hugging and loving my kids and you will to.
Best of luck.

Answer 8

I have 3. One was a breeze, Two simple, Three things got hard. You run out of hands. My first 2 were 18 months apart. The baby slept while my 18 mo. ran around and destroyed everything. It worked out fine. Whatever you choose, it'll be the right decision. Good Luck!

Answer 9

Aw go ahead. I straddled the fence on this same issue and before I could fall either way, baby 2 was on it's way. It's not any harder than having one trust me. I cried about baby 2 and when he got here, he was my joy. I know you will feel this way too. Besides, it's harder on you mentally with one and the baby grows up kind of selfish etc. I vote for a go ahead. If you need to talk more, I be glad to talk more.

Answer 10

I say go for it! Some people told me not to have one (obviously never listened), but kids are always a blessing. I'm the oldest from a family of 7 kids, yes, my mom was busy, but I loved have a big family. Not saying you should have 7, but I don't doubt that you can probably handle 2.