i have a sister who is almost 3 years younger than me (im 19, shes 16) there have been several incidents of my sister self-harming as well as atempted suicides etc... my family know all about this, and the reasons 4 it which im not going to go into... as the older sister she turns to me and tells me things only if i promise not to tell my parents as ocasionally they over react and make things worse, now i dont want to worry my parents but i dont know what to do, my sister was telling me about this massive party happening in a few days and how there's going to be lots of drugs and alcohol, she went into detail about how shes going to kill herself there as noone will b able to stop her, what should i do? should i tell my parents? is she jusst trying to scare me?
2006-06-13 09:08:51 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You sister needs to be committed for help immediately. Tell your parents ... you do not need this on your conscience for the rest of your life. Your sister is in deep trouble and needs more help that you or your parents can give her.
2006-06-13 09:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should tell your parents. What if you didn't and she went through with it and you always wondered what if...............You are not helping her by keeping her secrets. All kids think their parents over react to everything, and we may very well over react. But it is only because we want what is best for you. Sounds like your sister needs a lot of help and you parents may not understand how bad things have gotten. If you love your sister you will do all you can to help her find what it is going to take to make her better. Pray for her to find peace and happiness in the gift of life she has. Tell her how beautiful you think she is and how much she means to you and you can't imagine life without her. And how much it would hurt you not to have her in your life. There was a time when I thought about suicide because things were not going my way, now I am so glad it was just a thought and I got past it. Your sister can too. You have to always be understanding and loving and be there for her. She can come around.
2006-06-13 09:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by areno 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an older sister as well and I understand your love and concern for her. Why is she so troubled? I know you do not want to lose your sister so you need to take action, apparently you are the only one who can help her right now. Maybe you can get her do to something with you instead of going to that party. You could go away for a relaxing weekend and open up to each other. My sister is 4.5 years younger then me- She is 20 and I am 25 and we love to go away and hang out. Sisters are very special and important to each other. Tell your family, seek help for her and grab a hold of her before you lose your sister. Let her know what she means to you and your parents. I feel that suicide is a selfish decision and only harms the family and friends that are left to deal with it. She has a problem and you have the ability to help her. My prayers are with you.
2006-06-13 09:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by Heather W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetheart... which is worse telling your parents and your sister being mad at you. Or not telling your parents and you losing your sister forever. I really think you, and your family need to have your sister "commited" Now I know that is a harsh word, but life should be valued not taken for granted. She has a lot of things going on in her life right now and she needs to find positive ways to release her feelings and deal with what has happened in her life...
As a big sister you owe it to her to tell your parents... I would suggest to mom and dad that they don't go running and screaming to her.. but talk to her. If you are not confortable telling your parents.... play the big sister and keep an eye on her at the party.
There is no easy answer or resoultion when you are trying to convince someone that they shouldn't take thier life. However, GOD is the All knowing and All seeing and he can and will provide. Have faith!
2006-06-13 09:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine_Diva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you rather your sister not be alive or would you rather that she was just mad at you for a little while?
As hard as it may be to tell the secret that your sister trusted you with, it is still the right thing to do. Your sister is obviously very depressed and she still needs help. Your parents need to know that she still needs help and support.
Talk to your sister and see if you can talk her out of going to the party and maybe hanging out with you somewhere. If she refuses to go make sure you tell your parents and give them enough time to stop her from going to the party.
It will be hard to deal with your sister being mad at you but please don't forget that you did the right thing. She will come around and eventually she will get over her anger with you. Later on down the road she will realize that what you did was for her best interest.
Although there is no proof that your sister is serious about killing herself, she is definitely crying out for help by confiding in you. When I was depressed, I dropped similar hints because I knew I was serious but I didn't know how to stop feeling the way I did.
Please, please, please talk to your parents. I am so grateful now that a friend talked to my parents when I confided in them.
Good luck and be strong.
2006-06-13 09:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by melspags6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a mom and a sister i can understand that your positon is very difficult...i think you should tell your parents reguardless of how YOU think they will react... they only act in some ways because they love you... it may make things worse byt it may also save her life... if you can't tell your parents about this why not tell somebody who she also confides in maybe someone that will be at the party hopefully that person will be a good enough person and help convince her not to act so foolishly... maybe you could go with her... life is never bad enough to want to end it... i know that's easier to say because i'm not in that situation but really... if it were her time to go she would be gone... i don't know what i would do if my son went to a party with the intentions of overdosing on drugs and alcohol and someone knew about it... i hope this helps you and i hope that things get better for you and your sister...
2006-06-13 09:17:14 · answer #6 · answered by vanessa_mramos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I wouldn't be in your shoes. Your sister is either testing your loyalty or is in serious trouble. Talk to someone not close to the situation such as a priest or doctor and get some good advice. I couldn't begin to understand where her head is right now. Evidenty she has a true problem. Parents do over react at times but it's because they love their children and don't understand why things are happening the way they are. Nobies perfect in this world but please get your sister some help before it's too late and we are reading about her death and or yours. Good luck. My thoughts & prayers are with you, your sister and your entire family. Here's a hug XXXX if you need it.
2006-06-13 09:15:23 · answer #7 · answered by amariac218 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She definitely wants your help or she wouldn't confide in you. Drop some hints to the parents that this is not a party she should attend? Go with her? Find a way to make it not happen.
My sister did some of the same stuff. The bottom line HAS to be dealt with asap so that none of the cries for help become her last. She needs Jesus.
2006-06-13 09:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know the reason for her self abuse and if it has to do with abuse in itself, it is your duty and obligation to report this and not give a damn upon whom the axe falls.
As above, your sister is asking for your help. She is not just trying to scare you. Please find someone NOW! who can help. If your parents are freaking out, then take the responsibility upon yourself. You might even want to take your sister away for this enviroment, the party, the alcohol and drugs to get her mind off it. At the same time. Be with her. Don't let her go off on her own. This is the time to be scared. Scared for her, scared for how you would feel if she succeeded. Do something, and do it NOW!
2006-06-13 09:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by rb_cubed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you promised not to tell your parents, if it's a matter of her hurting or killing herself you most definitely should tell them. True, she may be yanking your chain, but if she's not, how would you feel if she actually did something and you did nothing to try to help her. Especially if there is a past history of her self-harming and attempting suicide.
Better safe than sorry. She may get mad at you, but I think you should tell. And if there's going to be lots of drugs and alcohol at this party, who knows who else may get hurt.
2006-06-13 09:14:00 · answer #10 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋