I have a friend whom I have known for almost 2yrs now and we have gone out. But recently she i met her and some of her friends at a club and and i called her and asked her for her friends number she didnt wanna give it to me and now she is calling more than she ever did trying to get to know me better and she now wants to ahng out more. but she has never shown an interest in me before what ot how should i take this..
Please serious inquires only!
2006-06-13 08:55:58 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I see two potential scenarios here. 1-she could be displaying jealousy between your interest in her friend, and the fact that her friend may like you two, which results in you and her spending less time together as "friends." Or, 2-she could have liked you all along, and now that your interest in another woman has put pressure on her to make a move before she loses you. If scenario 1 is the case, you would have to determine what is more important, hooking up with a hot girl or your friendship. Are you interested in her friend and getting to know her? Or, do you just want to "mess around" for a while? Either one is okay, because that's your business. However, this could affect your friendship. Which do you value more? If you go out with this woman and the two of you begin a serious relationship, you will have to sit down with your friend and establish boundaries. Obviously you two will spend less time together, and your new significant other may exhibit feelings of jealousy as well. With scenario 2, do you think there's a possibility that this girl friend of yours may really like you? Do you like her? If you think that she may in fact be relationship potential, look back over the past two years and determine what kinds of relationships has she been in with other men. Is she a fast mover? Does she sleep around? Is she bossy? Is she clingy? You have been her friend for the last two years, so you have a front row seat into her relationship behaviors with other men. Only you can decide what to do. If you really have an interest in this girl, go for it. The other girl is your "friend." She is not your girlfriend, your wife, etc.... She is your friend and you do not answer to her. On the flip side of that, because she did not want to give you her best friend's phone number, there is no way to tell if her best friend is "feeling" you as well. You will have to try to go to another means to obtain her telephone number. Good luck.
2006-06-13 09:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like she likes you. Maybe she has never really known how to express how she feels. She's probably taking her chances now because you are showing interest in someone else, and she maybe does not want to lose you to another woman. Maybe she never realized how she felt about you until the thought of you with another woman came up, and now she's trying to express her feelings to you.
If I were you, I would think about how you feel for her and sit and have a talk about it. If you don't have feelings stronger than friendship, I would let her know now, before she starts to believe maybe she has a chance. If you do have feelings there, more than friendship, I say go for it. You have been friends with her for a couple of years, you know her pretty well, and things could only get better. Best of luck-I hope all works in your favor!!
2006-06-13 09:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by EarthAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I don't understand the question. But from what I can gather you asked your friend for a girls phone # and she wouldn't give it to you and now your friend is calling you more often than ususal? well if this is what the situation is I think your friend has a thing for you and probably got jealous because you were asking for another person's number. So i think you probably need to make yourself and your friends relationship clear cause I think she thinks that she has a chance to be with you as in a g/f type.
2006-06-13 08:59:22 · answer #3 · answered by Frankie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of hard to say. She either has liked you all this time and was waiting for you to take some initiative. Or...she feels threatened that she might lose you to another girl that your showing interest in. Which ever you like or would like to be with the most, you should pursue. Be friends with the other one as you never know what might happen in the future.
2006-06-13 09:00:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mystery Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably thought you weren't interested in anything real serious and that the two of you had a good thing going and didn't know if she should risk losing it by pressing for more. Now she knows your interested in a relationship and she is taking a chance. You should ask her out again and talk to her about dating each other more seriously.
2006-06-13 08:59:39 · answer #5 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably didn't really notice you until she thought it was too late and now she's jealous and doesn't want to lose your friendship. If she is a true friend then you'll be able to work this out. If she wants more and you don't then nip it in the bud before either of you gets hurt. But that's just my personal opinion. Good luck!
2006-06-13 08:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by amariac218 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do her then dump her. Then go out with her friend.
No, you said, serious...
Wow, this chick is, like, totally into you, man! She's got a fire burning for you, and probably always has, and you never even knew it. She's obviously shy, but now she can see that the game is afoot so she's stepped up to the plate.
If I were you I would pin her down on this. Get her to reveal the truth about he new-found jealousy. You'll probably find that she's felt this way for a looong time.
Then you can do her if you want...
2006-06-13 08:57:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call your friend and ask her to dinner. You can take that opportunity to enjoy time with her, and see if she is genuinely interested in you or jealous because you were attracted to her friend. The real question is...are you REALLY attracted to her friend, or did you call her to get her friend's number to MAKE her jealous and get her attention???? Think about your motives also, and would you consider dating either of these two women!
2006-06-13 09:05:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's calling you because she thinks you are interested in one of her friends. So either she has been playing it cool with you hoping you would be interested in her - and when you showed interest in her friend she decided to more or less really jump in and let you know she liked you or she is just one of those girls that wants what she can't have.
2006-06-13 08:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take it that she's liked you for a while and never took the chance to show you, and now that you are showing interest in someone else she is jeleous and wants your attention.
You can choose to either see where it goes with her if you like her, or tell her you are only interested in friendship and find someone else to date.
2006-06-13 08:58:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋