When do you think is a good time to have a baby? Are you ever ready?

Question

What are your stories with being pregnant or having a baby and how did you deal with it? Was it a positive experience. Age/ marital status, ect.

Wow, I got some great answers. Thanks for opening up and sharing your stories with me. It's amazing that they are all so different but have the same result- a beautiful child who is soooo loved.

Answer 1

Well Heather, you got some interesting answers! Our first was planned, and was very hard. She is a crazy ball of energy and requires constant interaction. The second was a "planned accident" and was very easy. Now number three was a "unplanned accident" and is fussy. She is seven weeks, and keeps us up allot. All the while, we are broke and living in the midst of graduate school. Are you ready? Never. Will you ever be ready? No. But I wouldn't trade my three girls for anything. For me, reliance on Grace has enabled this happiness. The best advice I can give is to realize you will have to change, and you can make that a good thing. For me, having faith and family support kept my sanity, barely. But if you are asking yourself if its time, its probably past time...

Answer 2

I always felt that I would have a baby when the universe said I was ready. (I had two miscarriages when I was 14 and 17). Now I am six months pregnant (I am 19 almost 20 now) with a little girl and I know I will never really be ready to take on the rollercoaster of mommyhood. I am not married yet but me and the daddy to-be are very much in love and have a wonderful realtionship and a beautiful home. I don't know where I would be without him. Even though I had the two miscarriages before and it was pretty hard on me emotionally, I feel like the universe waited until I had a great guy by my side and a good support system.

Answer 3

You should decide to have a baby when the life they will be born into is as stable and secure as you can make it. That usually means both parents want the child and are in a committed relationship preferably married. You don't need to be rich but you do need to be able to take care of all their needs without the parents worrying all the time. Having an occasionally money problem is normal but not each and every day because that will be your focus and not the baby. It should be a time to enjoy a very special gift. But remember life happens so when things get yucky, if you have as much as possible on the right track you'll be able to cope. Good Luck to You!!

Answer 4

Hi. What is the frenzy? Do you propose on divorcing your husband every time quickly and wish to have a little one to hold him? You greater than me (bc. Im now not married) know the way fragile marriage is whilst a little one comes alongside. You are younger. You have tons of time. If your husband has had probs for five years, simply bc. you rush it now doesnt imply his issues conceiveing will simply leave. Let God make a decision whilst it's correct for you. and sure, you CAN be in a position for a little one financially and that implies now not having to paintings 20 hrs an afternoon to simply aid your self. a little one is a entire different being, that means if 20 hrs is only for you, then youll want forty hours an afternoon (that's unimaginable) for you and the little one. And you particularly consider dwelling off tax credit score will support that a lot. Think it via and appear on the guy you're keen on. If he loves you and you're keen on him and not anything can tear you aside--opt for it. If it kind of feels in any respect fragile now, both construct your budget after which have a little one or have a little one now and get ready for essentially the most complicated couple years to comply with. hat e to be pessimistic, however Ive visible it occur to frequently 7 satisfactory peers (Im 23). divorce has adopted two years afterwards bc. the little one introduced such a lot pressure at the courting

Answer 5

I don't know if there really is a "good time" to have a baby. As for being ready... I know I'm really not in a lot of ways! I'm 33 (hubby is as well) and we're due any time now. We have two wonderful children from his previous marriage (ages 11 and 6) but this is our first. So far, it's been an awesome experience and one I wouldn't trade for the world! Well, maybe the morning (ha! all day sickness!) part.

Answer 6

No, you can never be fully ready for parenthood. Ever. I was 17, just graduated high school, when I got pregnant with my first. In fact she was probably conceived on my graduation night. Lucky for me I had very supportive family on both sides. It was scary but I had to prepare myself for my life to change completely. I married my high school sweetheart and the father of my child when she was 7 months old. We seperated just before she turned 3 and were divorced 6 months later. With my second I had been married to my current husband for almost 3 years. Another surprise, I was prepared but he was not. I basicly went through my whole pregnancy and the first 18 mos on my own because he was completely disconnected and neither of our families live near us. My baby is now 3 and it is getting easier but you can never be prepared for all of the trials and tribulations of parenting. You just have to ride the tide and deal as you go along. I'm currently dealing with a preteen with some serious attitude and a very fiesty 3-year-old. I'm too young for this. But, I cherish the precious gifts I have been given and trust my gut and my heart to do what is right by them. So far I think I done pretty damn good.

Answer 7

I think it is better to wait until you live a little first. You will not have much time to yourself after you do.Maybe 29+.That being said, I had my daughter at 43, having gotten married at 42. It happened very quickly, to my surprise.
It was a good pregnancy, I would recommend midwives, they seem to have more time than the doctors.
Sometimes it's not good to overthink it. Even if you aren't particularly fond of children now, you will love your own in an awesome way.

Answer 8

I am pregnant with #8 and I am 31 and in a domestic relationship, divorced 2 years ago. Had my first at 16, 2nd at 17, married the guy, 3rd at 22, 4th at 24, and 5th at 27, then divorced..... had my 6th at 30 and now awaiting number 7, I count 8 because I have a bonus child with my fiance.

Answer 9

the best time to have a baby is when you are ready and qualified for all of the needs like ready to step to be a parent and others things dealing with a baby. you going to be ready one of these days but i wish you the best of luck and when you ready go on head and make a percious baby that you can admire write back at [e-mail]

Answer 10

I'm 26, single and have no kids. I am not ready financially, but I do want children and soon.
However, since I am still single, I feel that if I am going to have children, I should at least get as financially prepared as I can before taking that step.