My husband has a drug addiction he does good at times as long as he is in church but he wont talk to anyone when he starts getting the urges for it how do i get him to seek help.
2006-06-13 08:39:06 · 8 answers · asked by stormyblythe 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have to just be completely open and honest with him. Let him know you love him, you want to help him, but you can't hellp him unless he lets you in. Try bringing up some of the hopes,dreams and plans he has and that the two of you have together. Let him know that it hurts you to see him hurting.
2006-06-13 08:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My ex is in prison for 15 years because he could not stay off of meth and coke. I din't know he was on drugs until his sentencing for strangualation and domestic battery where he almost killed me and they said he UA'd positive for meth.
I have beat myself up thinking if only I had known and been able to get him help. Sometimes I can realized that I could not get him help. Prison has forced him to change and it is really sad because I see him now and he is the person he used to be and I was in love with. He has told me time and time again how much he regretted not getting help because he always wanted to use "one more time". It took prison for a wake up call.
You can urge counseling but if he does not get it it is not your fault. There is free will and he has to want to get help himself for it to be effective.
2006-06-13 15:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by wyldfyre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if the church you go to has a chemical recovery group.
Keep in mind you can't MAKE him do anything. Be supportive but ALWAYS use tough love. Believe what he DOES and not what he SAYS.
Do NOT enable him(not saying you do)
2006-06-13 15:44:29 · answer #3 · answered by Hoops Mcann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your minister to sit him down and have a talk with him maybe a man telling him that he needs to get help might go further. it is something he knows and doesn't want to hear because he feels he has it under control and he can handle it, you need someone to tell him and make him understand that he doesn't have control and needs help.
2006-06-13 15:51:10 · answer #4 · answered by captures_sunsets 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard to do, but speaking from personal experience on this subject, it might help him to have to consider all he's got to lose. Give him an ultimatum. It worked for me.
2006-06-13 15:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anthony B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him. he is never going to change. quit being so co-dependant. i was the same way and after 15 years i made a clean break . he is now in a new relationship and leaves me alone.
2006-06-13 16:02:28 · answer #6 · answered by angela h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every 1 can be changed. Just use every source you find.
2006-06-13 16:15:45 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Gilmore♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
doctor or give him some
2006-06-13 15:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by player 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋