I am wondering what do u do with a child that will just not listen..?

Question

my daughter is four years old but we are having problems with listening and I know that children dont really do this well .. but it is at the point were we really cannot take her anywhere because all she does is wine and cry .. are just totally bounces around everywhere and will sit still .. please help

Answer 1

I know this may come off as kind of corny but, watch Super Nanny. Jo is awesome. Her methods really do work. Simple time outs and age appropriate consequences are key for changing unacceptable behaviors.

Answer 2

The first thing that you need to do is to sit her down and if she does not sit still, sit her in a chair and get a rope and tie her up.. Of course, not to the point where you are hurting the child, is just to put some fear in her, to realize that you are no longer playing around and that she needs to do what YOU say and that she will no longer be doing what SHE wants.... she will probably cry like crazy., let her cry and tell her, you will stay in your room until you stop crying and we could speak... it usually will take a child 1/2 hour to 45 minutes to realize that you are really going to keep them tied up... while they are tied up, you can start taking their favorites toys out of their rooms and putting them in a garbage bag and showing her that she has lost all her priviledges in the house as she does not listen and is acting like a baby when she is already a four year old... Now, you need to be firm, and make sure that you do not give her any of the toys taken away, until she has actually earned them... Also, take away the tv, limit her to 1/2 an hour and then have her with you, talking to her and her talking to you, you will realize how your communication will progress as she has nothing else to do... Then, when you take her out in public, and you feel she is going to start acting up, you look at her with a threating look and do not lay a hand on her, and simply say, you will get punished when you get home and things will be taken away . . . usually, that will refresh their memories... Try it, but you need to realize that spanking is not the solution, but putting a certain type of restriction on them and them realizing that YOU DO NOT PLAY AND YOU KEEP YOUR WORDS... She will probably cry alot, but I have never heard no child dying because of too much tears, so she will be ok...

Answer 3

You aren't going to like this, but you need to beat that tail until she gets it. The thing is she thinks this world is about her right now, therefore if she isn't happy no one in the world should be. The only way to correct this is to create a fear in her. If she fears acting up (or at least the consequences of acting up) she will not do it. If you don't like my idea of spanking, don't do it. But find something she fears and use it until it doesn't work anymore. Then, once you get it all perfect at home take her out places and if she screws up out there have her understand what WILL be waiting for her when she gets home. You only have to follow through on this a couple times until they get it, trust me.

The only other thing I can think of would be a reward system. These don't work as good because the child is fine with not always being rewarded, she will hate being spanked. You have to do what works for you, spanking will work for anyone that does it the right way. There are teo types of people in the world, those that believe in spanking and those that don't, I don't know anyone that was spanked and didn't do better than average.

Answer 4

My daughter has recently found whining as well. We've decided not to listen to her, until she tells us in her grown up voice. So, as soon as she starts whining, we say, "Stop whining, and tell me what you need." Sometimes this works, sometimes it results in a huge fit which we ignore. Recently, they've been getting less and less though. The best thing you can do for a fit/crying is learn what triggers it and stop it before it happens, so talk to her before you go somewhere. Try a reward system, like if you sit in the cart and behave well the entire time we are at the grocery store, we can ride the mechanical pony on the way out. Stick with it too. If she's not good, no pony!

As for not listening, I have the same problem there too. I squat down until I'm at her level and we are eye to eye. I request for her to "listen to me" and I wait until she's ready. If she's in a huge fit, she won't listen until she's done.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Set boundaries and when she doesn't listen, punish her. Take away the TV, time out, etc, and things like that but make sure she knows that she isn't going to get away with not listening. If you are somewhere and she does it, don't give in to her, if you have to leave then leave. After a while she will understand that you are the boss and she has to listen to you and behave.

Answer 6

Don't want to scare you, but my girl is almost 5 and is very much the same. My son, her half brother, has autism and ADHD, from vaccinations. She is very smart, but very bratty too. I'm sure it is neurological, but I have not had her evaluated. I would not give her any more shots, though, if I were you. I would have her evaluated by a DAN! (defeat autism now doctor) they are around, you just have to look for them. Your ped. will tell you it is all a load of baloney and you're imagining it. Mine did too. Until I found a that he had a ton of lead and mercury in his tissues, food sensitivities and gut issues.

Answer 7

the 1 2 3 method with 1 being a stern disapproving look, 2 corner time and 3 a naked butt spanking!

Answer 8

just remember mom she is 4 not 40 and she is going through a phase in her life that will pass it may be annoying for now but she will grow out of it and i had much rather see a 4 yr old cry and whine than a grown up curse and yell out in public be patient mom

Answer 9

I agree with the person who suggested the Supper Nanny. She is great and her ways really work without violence. I think she may also have a book out. Hope this helps good luck!

Answer 10

well im real sorry to hear that your child doesnt listen to you but what i recommend is that you use something he or she likes (example: tv, playtime, toys) and take it away from your child as soon as he/she starts acting up. I have no children but i babysit alot and when i say alot i mean different age groups and it seems to work fine with me. just find that special little something he/she would not like to loose. good luck!!!