I don't want to ruin my relationship with my best friend, but I like the guy too.
2006-06-13 08:33:53 · 29 answers · asked by viola princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he seems to like her more it would be best if you just stepped aside. You can't change how he feels and it is better to not compete with your friend over a guy. Guys will come and go but friends are few and far between.
2006-06-13 08:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made the mistake of letting a guy get between me and my best friend over 10 years ago and it was the worst mistake I could have made. I let pride and jealousy ruin a friendship that was much more reliable and long lasting than my short lived fling with a guy. Now my friend and I are estranged and she and the guy are married. Big mistake on my part. I should have just stepped aside and tried to be happy for her! Good friends are more important than boyfriends that may or may not be there in the long run!
2006-06-13 15:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by aimeesue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have two options. It all depends on whats more important to you... first of all if you care more about a relationship with a guy that could last one night compared to a friendship that could last forever then you really need to think some stuff over.... but i mean if this is something that you think will last forever with this guy then i mean, do whatever you can and fight for it. If you need advice of how to get his attention. Act confident around him. Not too confident, but ya know make yourself present. Ask him to go catch a movie and grab some pizza or something. If you make him seem like a buddy at first he will be more likely to turn his attention to you. Then you can start hinting at your feelings for him. Hope this helped. Good Luck!
2006-06-13 15:41:12 · answer #3 · answered by Dove07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't give up. I thought that before - that certain guys like certain girls - and a lot of times it ends up just being like, they're good friends and they feel that connection, or he's flirting with her to impress you, or something. Don't give up - talk to him, be sexy, be cool. DO NOT let it go because if you do you may regret letting it go and missing out on a relationship that could have been for a long time. All of that stuff. Now if you do all that and you're positive he likes her more, then we move on to plan B:
In all honesty, beautiful, people's tastes are pretty concrete - if he likes her more there really isn't much you can do about it. Let it go and keep looking - there are a lot of men around who are the sheezy. Be supportive of it, as much as you can.. You may be mistaken about him liking her more, and if he wants to go out with you, you should go out with him, and she should be supportive of you as you would have been of her.
Regardless of what happens now, I can guarantee you - liking never lasts and pretty soon, he won't like either of you and it'll be forgotten. Don't sweat it too much - times change, hearts shift, and in the end you'll end up liking someone else. Value your friends more, they definitely last longer than any guy will.
Remember, even if you were to start going out with him now.. familiarity breeds comtempt and you'll end up not liking him. ALL relationships, excluding some marriages, go to hell, eventually. My point is don't take it all too seriously.
2006-06-13 15:40:35 · answer #4 · answered by gravyslurpee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off, because if you guys start to compete it might just ruin your relationship with your best friend. You could still be the boy friend.
2006-06-13 15:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by Drama Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to be with a guy who doesn't want to be with you? It takes two people to make a relationship happen. If he's more interested in her, then you only have one. Let him go find his happiness (or not) and you keep looking for yours. Let your friend have her chance, too. Being 'cool' about it will get everyone's attention- not just his. Its all good for you. Its not worth destroying a friendship when he's not interested in you. (Its usually not worth destroying a friendship even when he is interested.)
2006-06-13 15:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by j m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect his wishes as a friend and let things be. If it does not work out and the 2 of you are ok with you dating him, provided he shows interest in you, then you have your chance, if not let him go and just be his friend. Better to have a friend then none at all because you let your emotions ruin it.
2006-06-13 15:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by Cougar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you to do is to let it go. He's not the only guy on the planet, and you have a better chance of meeting someone that will be interested in you and only you.
2006-06-13 15:36:52 · answer #8 · answered by pradavee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be thankful that your best friend's new boyfriend is someone you think is pretty cool instead of someone you can't stand. Be happy for her and the right guy will come along for you soon. Happiness for yourself and others always wears better than jealousy or envy.
2006-06-13 15:37:56 · answer #9 · answered by creativereading 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he sees more interest in her then its better to just let her have him. after all, she is your friend and you want her to be happy, right? Besides, if you end up with him he might always look over your shoulder at what he could have had with her and there is no guarantee that he would remain faithful.
2006-06-13 15:36:49 · answer #10 · answered by shortyred37 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋