We were living together within six months. The relationship deterioated soon after that. She had many issues and I dealt with them. She ranaway a few times and always came back with in a day or two and was just mostly scared. I fell hard for her and we always agreed that there was a huge piece of us missing when we were apart. She sank deeper and deeper into depression and I stood by her throughout it all and helped her financially and emotionally to the point where I was always stressed. She gave very little back to the realtionship, but there was something about the girl that kept me. A few weeks backs she moved back home to get help and to be with her family. I stayed here and packed up all her stuff and put in storage. The plan was for her to get better and I was going to move out there. That was fine the first week, I was a mess though, couuld not sleep and ate every little and almost had a breakdown. Now she says she wants to be alone and no relationship. I am devastated.
2006-06-13 08:18:58 · 3 answers · asked by SPO 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes it does suck. I always felt that there must be a bigger picture and outcome after being thru so much. All her friends loves me as does her mother and father and they are know cluing to all that has been going on and all that I have done. Part of me is grateful for helping her and getting her to this level but the other part feels betrayed in the sense that now I have noting. I burned a few bridges with some friends over her and that sucks. I love her madly and do not regret meeting her but I should have looked out for No 1. I want to just walk off into the sunset.
Thx
2006-06-13 10:52:10 · update #1
Although this is not what you want to hear, it sounds like that is the best thing for you. You may not see it now but trust me, you will later. It sounds like you have what is known as the "savior syndrome" when you start off feeling something for someone then they become somewhat of a burden but you are convinced that if you help them get themselves together, they will be that old person again. But in reality, the girl you saw towards the end was truly the girl that she is....she showed you who she really is. Why would you want to be stressed out all the time and miserable with someone who doesn't give anything to the relationship....you could probably do better.
I'm sorry if I've hurt your feelings that is not my intention. I wish you the best.
2006-06-13 08:33:41 · answer #1 · answered by just curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont breakups suck...i waited 3 1/2 years for my now ex boy to get out of the service so we could start living together and he broke it off 2 times within the four months he was out...i guess he needed to be by himself also..such is life
2006-06-13 16:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by LEFTY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm i understand this complex situation...shes into severe depression,where she feels completely scared and lonely...and cant trust neone!uve been really gud2 her though...but its hard for her to appreciate and understand wat uve been doing to her...the best thing would be just leave her alone.....once she feels a lil ok..she will miss u teriibly..and start realising...leave her alone....but make it a point ur in touch..not directly..but thru mesgs and emails...she will feel cared and wanted!
all the best~
2006-06-13 15:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by kewl l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋