what do i do now?

Question

my bf and i have been together for 3 years now, we are both 23
he always talked about how he wanted us to have a baby and live together.
2 weeks ago i found out iam pregnant,now he says he is not ready and that i should make an abortion.
he has been strange these past months like he doesnt want me anymore.
i want this baby,i wanted so much what should i do iam still a student

Answer 1

dont subject yourself to the demands of others. follow you heart.

Answer 2

Well, if you really want the baby and are willing to take on the resposibilities and sacrifices to raise a child and finish school, then i say do it and forget about your bf. Right now the child is the most important thing. If you need guidance, go to your church or your neighborhood's Planned Parenthood center for answers. Consider all of your options before taking a drastic step like abortion

Answer 3

I think the mother should decide if she wants to keep the baby or not; you're the one who is having it, not your boyfriend. If he cannot handle having a baby, he should have had unprotected sex with you. My sister's exboyfriend did the same thing, and she had an abortion...it costs around $200 for an abortion. You should talk to your parents about it and see what their advice is...I would also check with your local Family Independance Agency, there is help for pregnant women.

Answer 4

He is probably just in shock and will come around and realize that he will take responsibility....you are a student and it will be hard, but it can be done... Just try to talk to him....if you want to keep the baby then do so because its your to!.. He will come out of shock and everything will be OK in the end...It will be hard at first but your baby will make it all worth it in the end for the both of you!

Answer 5

oh my goodness please dont have an abortion!! if he doesnt want it. thats too damn bad i'd say! you're the mother and its your child. if YOU want it then keep it or you will regret it for the rest of your life. I was adopted and I thank god my mother had me. Even though she couldnt keep me she still loved me enough because I was a part of her and something that she loved. And i got to have a great family and a great life. That baby is a part of you and it always will be no matter what. So please. Give that baby a chance, everyone deserves a chance.

Answer 6

My wife and I chose to not have our first when we were your age and still in college; we now have three and wonder if we made the right choice...

I'm not going to suggest one way or the other...but, if you choose not to have the child, then it means that your b/f never meant what he said about being with you - and you should move on, including HIM. He'll argue, pout or whine, but if he didn't want the child, then he's not ready to be a husband or boyfriend, much less a father. Move on.

Almost-perfect family man,
M

Answer 7

well, since it is his, he needs to show responsibility.
show him this part here
"A child is a responsibility that both parents must accomodate their lives for. 2 incomes are the standard to support a child. you dont want to pay child support, or have it taken from your check, so be there and pay for the childs care directly. you can live a happy life and have a child too."

and now for you...
well, I dont know you, but it would have helped if you made him use a condom. now its too late, and you must either
-have an abortion
people will hate you, and not many doctors do it.
-raise it for yourself
This will be easier with him to help you.
-Adoption
you wont see it again, but you can be assured that it will live a happy life. (at least thats what you can hope).

the choice is yours together, so dont ffu-ck it up!

Answer 8

it is your choice wether to keep the baby or not he is not the one carrying it. If you really want it i would keep it then you can attend school during the pregnancy and then attend night classes once a week and your boyfriend could watch it. i think he might not be ready mentally but once he is prepared he will love it so much

Answer 9

Hey give this baby a chance to live in this world. Listen to what is in your heart don't listen to your bf. Maybe he's having seconds thoughts on this.

Answer 10

You can only answer that question for yourself. I think you should do what you want to do. if you want to have his baby then you should. You also have to think about this. If you have the baby you may not have him. he may decide to skip out on you and the baby. Can you support a baby and yourself? Do you have a job? If you want this baby and can support it on your own with out him. i think you should have it even if he tells you to abort it.