My niece is getting picked on at school. What is the best way for her to fight back?

Question

Last week she had something thrown in her hair. The children speak in another language in front of her. A language that she does not understand. Then they say her name, look at her and laugh. She doesn't understand why they are doing this to her? She is very hurt and doesn't understand why they do this to her?

Answer 1

I understand and know exactly what your niece is going through. I was teased from 1st grade all the way to 8th. yeah...I know, lol. Let her know that, those kids doing that stuff to her are seriously jealous of her and that it eventually will catch up to them. Also i suggest that she find a teacher or principle in the school, she can talk to about this. Preferably a teacher because they give advice and they are easier to talk to. If they speak spanish, tell her to say, " Cayette(kie-a-tay) which means shut up! lol. No seriously, I would suggest that she stand up for herself as well. Look them in the eye at all times that she has something to say. Also, tell her not to be a push over. Kids who pick on others, always ask to borrow things and use things from the kids they tease. Tell your niece to say no, but do it politely. Everything will be ok. Im sure she has friends she can rely on as well, so it should be fine. But one thing you as the adult can do, is call up to the school and let an adult there know whats going on and see if anything can be worked out like a mediation thing or something. Hope I helped, and tell your niece to keep strong!

Answer 2

I was picked on a lot my last year in high school and occassionally throughout my life. First, sit down with your niece and make sure to explain to her that these bullies are the ones with the problem- not her. Sometimes when you're young, it's very hard to not believe what they say about you. Also, make sure she is in activities or something she enjoys, so she has plenty of opportunities to make her own friends. Bullies pick on others mainly because they are insecure themselves and try to fit in wherever they are excepted, even if they have to be mean just to fit in. Try to encourage her to ignore what they say but make sure a teacher or trusted person at the school is aware of the situation. Many times what seems like mild teasing can grow out of control. Maybe a teacher or mediator can step in and help out. good luck hope this helps some. the best way she can fight back is by being the bigger person and by knowing that what they say about her doesnt matter: she's loved just the way she is.

Answer 3

My daughter was getting picked on at school. I went in to eat lunch with her the next day and got right in the little girls face and told her I wanted her mothers telephone number. She started crying, in front of all the other kids. I hugged her and then invited her to sit with us and eat lunch. Things were different after that and we never had a problem again.

If someone can go down to the school, probably lunch time, or whenever it is she is being a target, and just be a presence, things may change. Make sure you talk to the principal before hand and let them know what is going on, especially if it is high school.

When the bullies get singled off by an adult, they aren't so big anymore.

I would spend every day at the school till I knew it stopped. Parents, Aunts, or other family members are always welcome at the schools. Lot of the problems at schools are the lack of adult involvement.

Good Luck !!

Answer 4

I went through a similar problem in grade school. It is a very hard thing to deal with. whatever happens, make sure your niece does not retaliate. those mean kids will make sure she gets in trouble. the best thing for you to do is tell a teacher or principal. then, just be kind to her. Make sure she feels comfortable sharing her feelings and thoughts about the situation with you. she is only being picked on because the kids are jealous. she probably wont believe it but its true. and the kids arent secure with themselves. if the situation gets any worse, she might have to think about switching schools. save that for a last resort though. I hope i've helped. good luck to your niece.

Answer 5

I can’t understand if she speaks other language than English or children speak in other than English. It is expected that you may contact DYFS and Special Services Dept of the school for help.

Answer 6

she needs to have an attitutde with her classmates, i am going through this right now. the girls are calling our house and trying to tell her that they dont wantto be her friends, well i got on the phone and pretended to be a lil girl and said she doesnt nnedyo uas a friend. the lil girlsgot scared and now they are calling saying they are sorry and wantto be her friend, my daughter is now on the other side saying she doesnt nned friends like that. the girls want to be her friend!!!!try to voleenteer at your neices school and then she will be cool, have her take chips to school for everyone , have her have a party for her birthday and invite all her real friends. do something fun that would make all the other girls jealous.if they want to play that way then she can too. make sure to exclude the other girls.

Answer 7

Since you didn't mention her age, it's hard to really know what to say to help you. But, bullying is the biggest, silent issue in schools due to zero tolerance rules, and it's terrible for the kids.

Eventually she is going to have to stand up for herself. Work through the school first.

Answer 8

one she can go to the teachers or the Principal or she can learn to fight back by tacking a self defence class!

Answer 9

she should stand up for herself. if that doesn't work, she needs to let them know that God made her the way she is,and if they can't except that, it their fault. she isn't gonna take rudeness any longer.

Answer 10

ok i have had that happen to me before wat she needs to do is stand up to them and fite back. be the bigger guy an set them rite even if they dont understand her or she can do the same thing back