2006-06-13 07:57:00 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
man, we are getting married soon and we are both 22 years old and she wants to have a child
2006-06-13 08:03:04 · update #1
No, Wait until after you are married and then it's ok. You will ruin your marriage if you do. Wait until after. you're almost there already. This doesn't sound right.
God Bless You,
2006-06-27 07:47:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, you probably should wait. Makes for an awkward wedding night when you've already done it.
Don't have a baby right away. My husband and I are doing that and we're financially strapped as it is paying the debt of the wedding off. One credit card company decided to hike the interest rate by 11 points without notifying us or giving us a reason. Now it's going to take 6 years to pay off instead of 4. We also experienced a sudden job layoff and our health insurance is through COBRA so we can't afford it, but we can't afford a $10000 hospital bill either so we have to pay it and our obligations are $400 more than we make a month. The savings aren't going to last much longer and we're scared.
2006-06-27 06:04:19 · answer #2 · answered by mom2babycolin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And why does she want a child? Is that what she wants to have sex for? Do you want a child?
I would suggest condoms until you have answers to these questions...being a parent isn't all fun and games..I know you both are planning on getting married and do you really want to bring a child into a NEW marriage? A new marriage is diffiuclt enough sometimes...enjoy ya'lls time together as a couple not as parents at first...but hey it's your choice...Good Luck and happy screwing!
2006-06-27 06:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by mrsmomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly if I had a boy friend like you, you would be history at 22 years of age should you be considering marriage. Please if you are going to do anything sexual use a condom because you are far too young to become a parent.
A lot of growing up to do here and your girl friend should be concerned about this too.
And if you have to ask a rideculous question and asking decent people what you should do you maybe are not telling the truth of your age and that you are considering marriage. This is not a joke people out there need to hear from decent respectful people who really need help not joke around or muck around on this site like a child.
2006-06-23 04:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by Kirratan_(Tanya) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex before marriage is a sin. I say no. Also, what would happen if between the time you were going to get married you discovered that you really had no feeling for each other? If she were to have a child, that baby would have no protection until you were married, or if you never married, would probably grow up without a father.
2006-06-27 06:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Royal Weirdo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not fall for that. She wants a child, and you are not even married. You may think me old fashioned and a prude. But marriage is more than Physical Love. It takes hard work to make a marriage work. It is the greatest committment that you will ever make in your life. When you take a wife, you take on the responsibility of making sure that all is on the up and up. I would have some second thoughts about this woman and her motives and also her committment to me.
2006-06-27 05:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by bertojame 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon, what kinda question is this?
If you need to ask, the answer is no. You are obviously not ready for that type of relationship, evident in your uncertainty over what to do. Don't feel pressured to rush into something you can't take back. Do some research on safe sex, risks, and places to go for help should anything happen.
The best way to tell if you're ready is to ask yourself two questions:
1. Can I tell my parents/ guardians/ etc?
2. Am I ready to be a parent if something goes wrong?
If you say no to either one, you probably aren't ready.
Hope that helps- good luck.
2006-06-27 06:57:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon, what kinda question is this?
If you need to ask, the answer is no. You are obviously not ready for that type of relationship, evident in your uncertainty over what to do. Don't feel pressured to rush into something you can't take back. Do some research on safe sex, risks, and places to go for help should anything happen.
The best way to tell if you're ready is to ask yourself two questions:
1. Can I tell my parents/ guardians/ etc?
2. Am I ready to be a parent if something goes wrong?
If you say no to either one, you probably aren't ready.
Hope that helps- good luck.
2006-06-13 12:00:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the little information you have provided, I'm going to guess you are under 18. Since it is very unlikely you are ready to be a parent, I would say NO. Regardless of any and all precautions you might take, pregnancy is always a possibility. Denying that simple fact does not make it any less true.
2006-06-13 08:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you are getting married to her, she is your fiancee, and screw is such a vulgar, disrespectful word. Besides why can't she wait till both of you are married? From what you've been saying you both don't seem to respect each other- or you have a seriously low moral standard.
2006-06-27 06:54:14 · answer #10 · answered by Warrior Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not just because you/ her are horny...if you care about each other then you need to make sure the time is right( I'm assuming this will be your first time together). Besides, it's always better the first time if it's in a really romantic setting i.e, rose petals on the bed,candles only, soft music...
2006-06-13 08:02:46 · answer #11 · answered by Boom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋