We have two boys, love them dearly , but I long to have a little girl. I am almost 35 and have fertility problems in the past. Should I just do it and not discuss it with him? He is not totally out on a baby, but is afraid we would have three boys. I just see my chances for a little girl slipping away and it is killing me. Help!!!
2006-06-13 07:49:48 · 9 answers · asked by Sarah G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would be honest with him. You love your boys and if you had one more you would love him as well. Personally I prefer boys over girls
2006-06-13 07:55:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please adopt. It is the only SURE way to get the sex you want. Your husband is right, you may likely have another boy. At that point would you want to keep trying again and again? There is no certainty that your next child would be a girl. Not discussing it with your husband would be wrong and selfish. Be glad you were blessed with the children you have, boys or not! These are your children, not just toys that you can play with and dress up. If you and your husband do decide to try again, be very certain that you can be happy with another boy. Your children will grow up much happier feeling like you love them for being themselves, not just consolation prizes because you didn't get your girl. That may sound cruel but I have too often seen friends who felt they were only second best in their parents eyes (fathers wanting boys, mothers wanting girls).
2006-06-13 08:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by peachyone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always discuss it with your husband. Life is not "Desperate Houswives." Also, the male determines the sex of the baby. If he gives an X chromosome, you will have a girl. If he gives a Y chromosome, you will have a boy. It's a 50/50 chance every time. The odds are not greater that you will have a girl, since you had two boys.
Also, you have plenty of time. My wife had our first child when she was 35.
2006-06-13 07:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by mcom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. He could be nervous about having a difficult fincial situation or something like that. I am the mother of 3 boys and 1 girl. When I was pregnant with my 4th. A friend of mine told me that I was going to have a boy simply because 2 of my older 3 where boys. And wouldn't you know it, I had a boy. Her theray is that if you have 3 kids and go for a 4th you will get what you already have the majority of.
2006-06-13 08:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by shop4tots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband, tell him how you feel. This really should be a joint decision. If you sneak behind his back to get pregnant, it could cause problems. The best thing is to be totally open and honest with him about how you feel. The worst that could happen -- he will agree, you will get pregnant, and you will end up with 3 boys. So what? Just think of all the money you would save on clothes. Hand-me-downs are less expensive.
2006-06-13 07:58:08 · answer #5 · answered by bahma812 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not do it without his OK. I mean this baby whether it is a boy or a girl will be the both of you and you do not want to bring in something he does not agree on.
As for the girl....what if you have another boy? Are you going to care when this happens. Deep down you will be sad...can you overcome it? If so then try and tell hubby that you want to try and are willing to except either or.....what if you have twins? :) Good Luck!
2006-06-13 07:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamlander 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a good way to end up a single mother at 36! If he is not on board with having another child, then you don't. You two need to learn to talk.
2006-06-13 07:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by davidmi711 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never EVER plan for a baby without the consent of my husband. You're just asking for trouble and resentment later on. If you truly want a child, discuss it with him and see joint counseling.
2006-06-13 07:56:05 · answer #8 · answered by nwtobe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does hubby not want any more kids?
you should not do this without his concent.
can harm your marriage
2006-06-13 08:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋