We have been dating for 9 months, and I have a 9 month old and a 5 year old. I dont have the girls but 3 days a week if that. and I am not currently working. They go to sleep at 830 and he gets home from work at 545. My oldest always wants to play with him out side, and i think that its a good thing. after playing out side for about an hour they came in and he was cleaning his master bathroom (large) (we are selling the house) and he asked me to take her away because she was in the way. mind you 15 mins she was going to sleep, and all she was doing was sitting on the sink talking to him while he was wiping paint off the trim. was it wrong of me to get upset about thinking he doesn't want her around? and then he compared annoyance of his cat i have to my girls waking up at night.........
2006-06-13 07:46:48 · 7 answers · asked by ckck1978 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
me and my husband seperated after i had our last daughter. I am still in the middle of a divorce. and their father works 3 days a week and is off 4 so rather then have them in daycare 5 days a week, we agreed to this. both my girls are my husbands. again we are in the middle of a divorce, my husband got another women pregnant, and her baby is due next month
2006-06-13 07:54:18 · update #1
I have had a tubal. and he wants me to get it reversed so we can have children of our own......
I do have to ask ALOT for help. im still adjusting to having two, becuase i dont have them both full time. its rough! i give PROPS to single parents thats for sure.
2006-06-13 07:56:38 · update #2
Being a single mom, before I got into a relationship with the man I am still with today, I had already preset into his head that we were a "package" deal so to speak. Love us both, or keep on walking.
Everyone has bad days though, if you've never noticed issues with him and your girls before, maybe he had a rough day at work and just took it out on you and them in the wrong way.
I've been known to get aggravated at my daughter when I'm in process of cleaning or folding laundry, as she loves to randomly leave a trail of toys and blankets around the house.
If it really bothers you that much, I'd bring it up into a conversation with him. Maybe he was just at his wits end for the day.
2006-06-13 07:52:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you only have them 3 days a week and hes calling them annoying you need to get rid of him. And how come you are the mother but you dont have full custody. Thats strange. You've been with him 9 months and you have a 9 month old child. There is alot more to this story that you are not telling.
2006-06-13 14:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am single and dated with younger children although not as young as yours. My expectations are that its a package deal, if he's not patient, caring and understanding with your children- then he's not the man for you. there are other men out there who are patient, caring and understanding with children who are not theirs. I have dumped several men in the past who.... 1. were afraid of my children and didn't want to be around them, 2. was using drugs in front of them, 3. was abusive towards them. 4. was indifferent towards them or didn't want to be around them. i am now dating a man with younger children- his are 4 and 6 and mine are 18 and 19, and its a package deal- you take them with the children or you find someone else who will be accepting of the children.
2006-06-13 14:55:01 · answer #3 · answered by tigkitty3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't seem like he has too much patience for children, have you ever asked him his thoughts of children? Does he ever want his own? Someone who never wants their own children will probably never have patience for someone elses children. Maybe you need to re-think this relationship and how he would feel if the living situation ever changes with your daughters and they live w/you full time.
2006-06-13 14:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by miss_angel_eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to treat them just like they were his own kids!! and not yell! trust me my mom has been married 4 times and all the guys dont treat me with respect! i even have to go to counceling because of my dad and step dad!! soo yeah
2006-06-13 14:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by courtney5839 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you come with a package deal (you and kids)... if he can't get along with the whole package then he isn't worth it.
2006-06-13 14:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by sunkissedlove<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run.... FAST!
2006-06-13 14:48:53 · answer #7 · answered by U. N. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋