When will moms stop trying to be 'hot' and just be good role models?

Question

Not to say they shouldn't care about their appearance...but seeing scantly-clad women toting kids around is somewhat comical. But I think in any case, women should work on their brains, now. We’ve advanced just fine in the ‘attention to our looks’ department.

Answer 1

when we get better self esteem and quit trying to live up to the hollywood image?

Answer 2

I'm the mother of a 1 year old and a 2 1/2 year old. Jogging pants are my best friend. I rarely put on makeup or curl my hair or take the time to pick one perfect outfit to go pick up a gallon of milk and a pack of toilet paper in because I DON'T HAVE TIME. I have nothing against mothers wanting to look good, and I don't think wanting to look god is setting a bad example. I do, however, have a problem with mothers who teach their children that how they look is ALL that matters. This has been a problem since time began.. there will ALWAYS be a mother that gets criticized for trying to look good all the time and there will ALWAYS be a mother who gets criticized for not trying hard enough. As long as the children are loved, cared for, fed, and go to sleep every night in a warm bed in a clean home with a good roof over their head, who's business is it what mama wears?

Answer 3

What's wrong with a mom trying to look good? Mom's are women first, so I think if they want to look good, then go for it. I am a mom, and I am 24. The first few months I was so tired and run ragged from staying at home with the baby, that I didn't even wear makeup or fix my hair most of the time. And you know what? It wore me down, my self esteem dropped, I felt like an old woman. I felt like a machine, and didn't take the time to make myself look good. After the routine of taking care of a baby got easier, then I could fit into my old clothes, and got to where I would put on my makeup and do my hair, and I felt a lot better about myself because if you look good, it makes you feel good. So, moms out there, do what you want, take care of your children, but wear what you want, color your hair, get your nails done, whatever you need to do to make yourself feel good. You are only as old as you feel!

Answer 4

I, personally, don't think looking like a couch potato and being a good role model go hand in hand. In fact, part of being a good role model is teaching your children to eat and exercise properly. However, I DO have a problem with a mom that considers her makeup, accessories, latest fashion, and Gucci shoes more important than being the best mom she can be. I think there is a nice medium in between the two. Just my 2 cents.

Answer 5

Fortunetly, there are moms who are not like that. I'm quite content with my body and very interested in being the one to teach my daughter how to behave. However, there is a lot of cultural pressure to look certain ways and it could be depressing for some women to see all these fashion models and actresses looking great after children. So even though many mothers are interested in being good role models, they're also obsessed with how they look.

Answer 6

Not sure how old you are, but my 13 year old would tell me to stop. If it bothers you, then it probably doesn't look good to others either. The sooner you sit down and talk to her, the happier you will be. Maybe she thinks you like the way she dresses and acts. Tell her nicely, say: Mom, do you think that you could start dressing like other moms. I don't like it when you try and act like a teen, it looks kinda dumb and people look at you funny. I just want my mom, my normal mom. A normal mom can look good, but tight clothes, and lots of makeup and plain old tacky is bad. Good luck. No guts no glory kido

Answer 7

Why can't they be hot and good role models? It is a good thing to take care of yourself. But I guess some do go over the limit and try to be 16 again. I guess there are just some bad parents out there.

Answer 8

I had a friend when i was younger who mother was always trying to wear her clothes and be "cool" and hot but what my friend needed most was a mother. That is not to say a mom cant look damn good and they should. Especially if they have the body for it. But i think that as long as society says your not "pretty" unless you look like this______ they will always be trying for that image, mom or not mom i think that is true for most women, or people for that matter. I defiantly hear what you are saying and agree.

Answer 9

i don't think moms should dress like tramps, but i think moms should still try to look nice. i like to have on a nice, practical outfit that reflects some of my prebaby style, have my hair in any way except a bun or ponytail, a little makeup, parfume, decent shoes (not sneakers, but not heels either!) and i see nothing wrong with this. i don't want to look 20 years older than i really am b/c i don't take care of myself.

Answer 10

oh, b/c many of us are fairly vain deep down inside.

i have to admit, that even though i am dedicated to providing for my baby (still pregnant), i still have a desire to look good.
i would never put my own vanity above my child, but i like looking presentable and attractive.
i like having a tan and i like wearing clothes that look nice.

i don't want to be one of those sweat pants moms, but who knows! i may end up like that!!

i feel that if you are happy with how you look, then good for you!
i personally, feel good about myself when i feel that i look good.

i don't however want to see mommies out there with daisy dukes and tube tops!
maybe that's what you're talking about???

Answer 11

As soon as men stop paying attention to 'hot moms'