My Dad is a maniac!! Help??!?

Question

My life has been like hell for the last 1 year,,since my parents divorced am living with my dad who's drunk 12 hours a day,,My dad is a huge bossy control freak,,am not saying am the perfect daughter i have been rude and mean with him before but he is absolotly driving me insane,,i have a 9 year old sis,,and i have to take care of her with her homework and everythin,,clean the house,,and cook for everyone and am 13,,he is always complaining and whining about EVERYTHING he never looks at the bright side of anything,,i cant live my own life,,i cant go anywhere else..HELP

I have no idea where my mom is i havent seen her for a month,,she doesnt care anyways

Answer 1

YOU POOR GIRL, DON'T BLAME YOURSELF.YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE PERFECT, YOU ARE THE CHILD! IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU ARE DOING A WONDERFUL JOB, DESPITE WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH! DO YOU HAVE A GUIDANCE COUNSELOR AT YOUR SCHOOL YOU CAN TALK TO?? AT LEAST TO HELP YOU GET THROUGH THIS, IF YOU CAN'T LEAVE.

ARE YOU SURE YOU DO NOT HAVE ANYWHERE TO GO?

IF NOT CAN YOU FIND A SUPPORT GROUP TO GO TO?? SOMETIME S THEY HAVE ALA TEEN GROUPS FOR TEENS DEALING WITH ADDICTION/ALCOHOLICS IN THEIR FAMILY.

THESE PEOPLE MIGHT BE ABLE TO HELP YOU WITH YOUR SITUATION OR GIVE YOU THE LOCAL RESOURCES AVAILABLE IN YOUR AREA.

Answer 2

Yikes. Sounds horrible. Here's what I can tell you from being in a similar situation.

It was not until after my parents divorced and I was on one of my special visits with my dad that he was able to understand why I did not want to be there. I simply told him it was because he was always drunk. Sometimes honesty is hte best policy.

From that night on, he was much better. He did not stop drinking, which people think is the ONLY course of action for a drunk. He did dramatically reduce his intake and quit drinking liquor (stuck to beer) until I moved out of hte house for good.

It is important for you to be honest with your dad. Otherwise, he willnot know how his drinking affects you. However, you need to catch him at a sober and kind time. And just because he says he udnerstands does not mean he won't do it again.

Is there family or friends that you and your sister can stay with? If not and you are really done with this situation, you can call child services or tell a teacher/counselor about your situation so they can do it.

Stay strong honey, we've all been through tough times. They make you stronger and sadly, I can only say that there will probably be tougher times ahead. Feel free to send a message if you need some moral guidance, I'm happy to help someone in teh situation if I possibly can.

Answer 3

Tell Your Teacher For Help! If He Tries To Be Funny Call The Police. If Not Have A Good Talk With Your Dad, If Its STILL NOT POSSIBLE, Write Notes To Each Other!

Answer 4

If your dad was given custody of you and your sister by the court I believe you can request that custody be given to your mother. If you can't live with your mother, your father can be found unfit to care for you and custody can be given to grandparents or another relative. Just be careful because sometimes you will be put into government care (aka foster homes, etc) and these situations are often much worse than living with your father due to the likely hood of being seperated from your sister. Depending on where you live you can also be emancipated at 16. I had a father like that but he only had visitation rights to me but I eventually got restraining orders and removed all of his rights to see me due to physical violence. If your father EVER hits you though, report it immediatley. Hope things get better for you, maybe you can live with your mom.

Answer 5

You need to take the lead and set an example of maturity.

Improve your behavior, then call a family meeting where everyone agrees to take the time to sit around a table and discuss things maturely. Talk about your point-of-view and what you would like changed.

Also, offer concessions based on what your father sees as wrong

Answer 6

Well it seems like you've had a hard time with your dad too. I never knew my biological father. My mom got married and then just this year my step-dad died. : C I hate not having someone to call dad.

Answer 7

talk to a counselor at your school, a minister or priest, or call social services, they should be listed in the phone book. You need to get you, and your sister out of this situation, and your dad needs help for alcohol abuse.

Answer 8

Go get professional help ASAP! An alcoholic parent should not be raising kids, call child protective services ASAP, they will help you with your problem.

Answer 9

try talking to ur dad calmly and dont be rude just say "look dad could u cut me some slack" or something like that

Answer 10

he needs help, and you will all be better off if he wants it... i hope he gets into treatment soon...in the mean time, you need to TELL someone what is going on, they will let uyou live with your mom, or someone else!