My situation is that I love my child. She is almost 2 and I try to protect her as much as I can. I am a working mom and my husband is a stay at home dad. I love her so much that she is all I think about. I worry about so much that can happen when I'm not around. Her father is a very good father. He takes good care of her but being a mother, you feel that you can do alot better. I think I want to home school her when the time comes but my husband says we should let her go to school to socialize with other kids. I just worry what if someone tries to push, hit, pick on her. I think I would go nuts if I ever found out anyone hurt my child. I sometimes leave her at my sisters house while we are preparing our new home for her but my mind is on her. I know she is in good hands and is having a great time with her cousins but she is still my baby and always will be. How can I learn to relax and not worry so much??
2006-06-13 07:27:48 · 24 answers · asked by Double DD 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Believe it or not your situation can indicate that you could be suffering from anxiety and depression. Not all depression is about harm to yourself or your child, often it can manifest itself as fear of harm to the person or child. You might even be suffering from PPD that began as the usual baby blues and has now slowly become an intense need to protect your child.
I would really suggest calling your doc and talking about this. There are so many medications out there that can help you if you want to take them.
If you don't like the idea of medicine, often just talking to a professional and figuring out what is triggering this will help. You might have had something happen to you when you were young that you were not protected from and are now reacting to it by the intense need to protect your child.
The webmd site below has some suggestions for dealing with anxiety, they might help you. In the meantime, make sure you don't just dismiss this, you have reached out for help, that is a good thing. You know something isn't right, now it's just a matter of using your time to deal with this productively instead of negatively.
2006-06-13 07:36:31 · answer #1 · answered by barefeet561 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a mother's job to worry, but she will be so over protected that she will never be allowed to become her own person. First your husband is right, public school. If something happens let her tell you. First let her try and handle the situation. If that doesn't work then you talk to the teacher, Principal, or other parent. I just went through that this last year when my son started kindergarten. They will learn to take care of themselves. You on the other hand NEED to relax or your child will grow up resenting you. Let your kid be a kid. Yes you are the best at caring for her, but other people will not do something to purposely hurt or harm her. She needs the exposure to grow up balanced and open to others. So good luck, relax and let her be a kid. Give her some sleep overs at a family members house. Start small.
2006-06-13 14:35:50 · answer #2 · answered by Robbin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have home schooled 6 of my 8 kids. They have been able to attend a public high school with no problem. There is a thing called a charter school if you live in California. I am not sure what's its called if you are in another state. Home schooling is great so you can teach you child values, morals and of the course about sex, love, etc. I know people will say that the child is secluded but if you go to a charter school they have outside classrooms to help the parents in subjects like math and science. They also have extra curricular activities that the children can do, like ice skating lessons, horseback riding, tennis, music, language, etc. They are all in your home town and are with your local businesses. A teacher comes once every 20 days and sets up a goal for you child to reach. She also helps grade and test the child. The best of all is that its free. Its through the state and they use the same books as they do in public schools. I am glad I did and so are my kids. We have a wonderful relationship and I loved every moment of it.
2006-06-13 15:35:20 · answer #3 · answered by tinker143 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a new mom can be hard,, but letting her go and knowing that she is in good hands makes it a little less of a worry it is good that you have relatives that you can trust and that your husband is a real hands on Dad. Try to relax and think about the fun shes having rather than what can happen to her,, that might make it easier and the more you let her socialize, the happier she will be and the more well adjusted and outgoing she will be. My daughter Jennifer had Little David 4 years ago and didnt want to take him places with her because she was afraid he would fuss,, but she takes him everywhere and he loves everyone and talks to everyone and is a very friendly little boy.. Good Luck and God Bless you and you family.. Martha
2006-06-13 14:37:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad News, it is just the begining. I am the same way, it is a motherly thing. I have an 8year old sister, and my mom asked me the other day if I would let my child go play outside in the next yard if they were her age. I told my mom no, I told her this world is to crazy and I am worried. Well, to make this story short, my mom stated "you have to have faith that god will watch over the kids". Ever since then I have relaxed a little bit. It's good to worry, because those who don't probably don't really care! Just think positive and it wil be ok!!!
2006-06-13 14:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by jlil_shortie143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't protect her from every little thing because she'll grow up and go into the "real world" and get a big suprise. Yeah someone might pick on her at school but if I'm not mistaken she'll probably pick on someone too (not to say your child will grow up to be a bully, but that's just the way kids are and always have been).
2006-06-13 14:35:42 · answer #6 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STEP AWAY FROM THE CHILD....
Okay you need to calm down... and let this child grow up... learn and experience... Home school is bad... the child needs to socialize with other children and need to be in a classroom setting... She needs to be pushed... or hit... or picked on... that is how we grow and learn and develop...
and if you still need proof.... Most of the Serial killers in the USA... where all Momma boys... and over protected by there mothers... so set back... let her grow... and become a woman...
2006-06-13 14:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by lblakker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to focus on the mere fact that sheltered kids are typically wacked out in the head or unable to stand up for themselves. Your girl must learn to fend for herself. She's only two. She needs your constant protection right now. You should be able to gradually relax your grip and let her control her own life. As for home schooling, public schooling is wacked out. But that's another issue indeed. You seem to have your situation pretty well under control. What's to worry about?
2006-06-13 14:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by atrain10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck relaxing. My daughter is 16 months old and I am in the same boat. It's life. Your going to be protective of your little one. Just know that you made it through life just fine and so do million of other kids. Every thing happens for a reason and you can't change what will happen.
2006-06-13 14:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont homeschool, let your child go through the same situations as every other child does. Remember that you're not only giving your child education in subject but you're also giving them experience for the real world in which they will be confronted with mean people or other problems. its just a part of live that no one can avoid
2006-06-13 14:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by hepburn2hewitt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋