me and my ex boyfriend are now friends with benefits how do i get him to see that i love him more than a frien

Question

me and my ex boyfriends are now friends with benefits how do i get him to understand that i still love him more than a friend. when we hang out we act like were together its just the same without the title and it is so confusing to me it makes me crazy.

Answer 1

By not making it so easy for him if you love him you want him to love you too, friend with benefits is not what you want...
So be transparent to him and tell him what you want, instead of doing what he likes...

Answer 2

You tell him - and you tell him that you do not want a 'friends with benefits' relationship, and that if he cannot commit you have to leave.
Remember though that you have what is called an 'open relationship' where you both or maybe one of you see other people. Once you have done this it is very hard to become monogamous, since issues of cheating on one another no longer exist. Both will have to make a conscious decision to not see anyone again while you are together, and also to not hold past indiscretions against the other. It will not be easy, but I am sure if you both agree that you love each other it is possible.

Answer 3

I was in a identical challenge, and feel me... It doesnt work!!! It simply ended up hurting me more, considering the fact that even though I nonetheless cherished him and it gave the impression he liked me too, I felt used... And then he obtained a further wifey and that i determined that was once it (probably my ex used to be just a b******) however its no longer valued at the heartache, coz whilst you could be moving on, ur nonetheless stuck there thinkin if he does still like u, and believe me if he does get a different girlfriend u shall be more heartbroken then u was when usafirst broke up. I have an understanding of what ur announcing although its fairly misleading, however I suppose that is the fallacious solution to go if u want him to like u again, coz at the finish of the day intercourse is simply intercourse, and he can get that from any person, but when u spend extra time with him as a buddy and let him be aware of that there aint gonna be advantages, then he'll see u as a pal as a substitute of anybody he can name at any time when he needs 2 hit and i guarentee he'll omit u for ur persona no longer ur p****!!!

Answer 4

He's an ex for a reason. Either enjoy the sex and forget the rest of it, or get out of the situation completely. He obviously isn't interested in a relationship with you or he wouldn't be an ex. If you want to get out of it, just tell him that your sorry, you still have feelings for him and you cannot continue to share a bed if he doesn't share your feelings. Of course, then he will give you the line about how the sex is so good between you and blah, blah,blah... but stick to your guns, tell him it's all or nothing.

Answer 5

You have to tell him that you love him more than a friend. And then from there you get a reaction....having sex with him as "friends with benefits" is a bad way of trying to prove to him you love him. It's also not healthy. I did the same thing and in teh long run I just ended up getting even more hurt. Sometimes you just gotta break ties with him. That's probably what you don't wanna do...

Answer 6

You do see that he's using you. He gets all the benefits of the relationship without the commitment, but if you are cool with this then more power to you. I went through the same thing in high school I am now married and he is married with a kid and one on the way. Your chances of sticking through this are slim. You need to open your eyes, unless your prepared. Then get your kicks while you still can.

Answer 7

Girl omg I am going through the SAME EXACT thing right now. Expect I have an even tougher problem right now, I think he likes this other girl that he works with. He's hurt me like this before and I just can't take it anymore. I'm scared that he's gonna wanna go out with this girl and that will be the end of our almost 3 year relationship/friendship because we've tried before and we can't "just be friends." So talk to your friend and see if he feels the same way, he may just not want the commitment, which is sucky. But hey thanks for letting me vent.

Answer 8

Talk to him about it, but beware, you might not like the answer..as of right now, he is getting the benefit of a relationship without all the hassle and responsibility, and if you disturb that he might just look somewhere else for his beneficial friend. I would stop this because it doesn't sound like a good situation and will probably cause more hurt to you in the end

Answer 9

This exact thing happened to me. A lot of times guys just need the space to figure out what they want. Just tell him that dropping the title doesn't mean the relationship is any different. If you can't wait for him to accept the whole boyfriend/girlfriend thing than maybe you should just be friends. Running away from problems doesn't solve anything.

Answer 10

I wouldnt go for the "friends with benefits." All your doing is f***ing around and....love isn't suppose to be just the sex, its the passion, the feeling when one holds you, there for you and so much more. If he's an ex that is your "friends with benefits" aka "friend fukr" then maybe its not more....its just sex.
What is it, is it your hormones or something?
Idk, if you really want him as more than a friend, then tell him. Maybe it'll workout for you or maybe not. Well, you'll never know unless you try.

Answer 11

well, there must've been a reason you two broke up in the first place. sounds like you want to start it up again, but is that really a good idea? Friends with benefits is not really a good idea, because usually only one of you has feelings for the other, and it's a one way street.