They live with their dad. It will make my mother angry but it's not up to her. Is it worth getting her angry or should I wait until the kids are 18 and let them look me up if they want to?
I used to take them to the movies and out to eat and stuff 4 years ago and also 7 years ago.
I miss them a lot and have heard from a relative that my brother is not doing well. He's making terrible grades and is too attatched to his girlfriend. He's only 14.
2006-06-13 07:20:58 · 4 answers · asked by icu812 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my mother and I are not on speaking terms and haven't been for 4 years. I have no desire to speak to her. I have been told we have a toxic relationship and it is best to avoid her for my own health.
2006-06-13 07:30:13 · update #1
As long as you are a balanced, fair, and emotionally-healthy older sibling, set your worries about how it will affect your mother aside. She is the mother of each of you. But, those children are YOUR siblings. There is nothing like a sibling relationship. They have a right to a relationship with you, as you do with them. Your relationship with your mother and her with you are separate and distinct, as is her relationship with each of the children. I encourage you to cultivate a loving and warm relationship with each of them individually, as well as with the group. It will only help those children to grow into strong balanced adults, and in the end, your mother should be happy about this.
2006-06-13 08:04:00 · answer #1 · answered by Ancespiration 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you've been in their life before, why not again? I think it's great that you want to see them! If you think it's going to make her angry, then you can sit her down and tell her ahead of time, "look, I'm going to do this, I want to be involved with them, and if you cant handle it, you will have to get used to it, that's all. they are my blood relatives and I need them and they need me"
She will eventually get over any hard feelings. I take it she doesnt talk to them either? she needs to think of you and what you want and not get in the way. explain you wouldnt get in her way if she wanted to do something. ask her for her support and not to give you a hard time.
good luck
2006-06-13 14:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for the relationship - as long as no one is getting hurt and the brother and sister feel the same as you, I see no problem with it.
2006-06-13 14:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your relitives know where they are, ask!
2006-06-13 14:26:45 · answer #4 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋