I had an online relationship about 2 years ago, and it was the most wonderful experience I have ever had. From the first moment I spoke to him I fell in love. i was never one for the whole "online love thing" so this took me by surprise as these feelings i had surpassed all those i had previously felt with any of the guys i ever had a "physical" relationship with. getting over it was the hardest part, and i couldnt help but wonder if what i felt was real or not...i guess because of the stigma ppl place about online loves and so on....
truth be told, my online guy held my heart more than any other has ever, and although "in love " is the situation right now i still do love him...
what are you views on this? any words of wisdom? any experiences that may have worked out? do you agree that you can most deffinately find your soul mate on the world wide web?
2006-06-13 07:17:57 · 33 answers · asked by micheypoo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm sorry i meant to say "in love" is NOT the situation right now.....
2006-06-13 07:18:41 · update #1
ahahah i actually felt the same some of yall do about it, which is why it took me by surprise...but it's all good :p i completely understand where yall are coming from.....
2006-06-13 07:20:40 · update #2
I'd like to thank everyone who has replied thus far, it really has given me some insight on the matter thanks!!
2006-06-13 07:28:49 · update #3
I'd like to thank everyone who has replied thus far, it really has given me some insight on the matter thanks!!
2006-06-13 07:28:56 · update #4
I've been on-line since before the WWW existed, and two of my four major life relationships started on-line. I met my husband on-line in 1999 (married in 2001), and I truly believe that I am blessed to have found someone so ridiculously perfect for me.
I've also done the stupid thing and thought I "loved" a guy I met on-line when I really didn't. That was when I was 14, so I would've been more prone to rash decisions way back when. :)
Still, I learned from that experience that meeting IN PERSON is necessary to prove any relationship formed initially on-line. I think you can get a good sense of how well-suited you are to someone from an on-line relationship, but only meeting face-to-face can tell you whether you have chemistry and can be in a physical relationship as well.
2006-06-13 07:24:24 · answer #1 · answered by willo - SAHM & lazy genius 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
At some point you'll have to meet the guy
You might not like the way he looks, and then it's a shame you spent all this time.
the second point against this is that people's personalities are different when they are chatting. You don't behave the same way with a computer that you do with a person.
This online love works for movies, I guess, but in real life, you can't talk about love until you've met.
Only advice I can give you is to meet him as soon as possible. If you can't bring yourself to do that, just dump him. Stop living in a fairy tale
2006-06-13 07:22:36 · answer #2 · answered by asaaiki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that you may just be in love with love. One can create an ideal about someone they have never met, but actually meeting them could be a big disappointment. Or it may seem like it works out at first & rush right into it but then realize that you do not really have that much in common after all.
Worst case scenario they could be a real sicko preying on your feelings.
Do not decide before meeting them. If you do decide to meet them make sure you take proper precautions when doing so such as meeting in a protected environment, driving separate vehicles, etc...
2006-06-13 07:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by Selkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not against online chatting. However, people tend to type anything they want (and even lie) because they feel comfortable in the safety of their own home.
I can be your hero if I wanted to be. All I have to say is that I'm 6'4" 210lbs., a doctor, two Porsches, and that I do anything and everything for the one I love. Do you believe that? Probably not. Well, hey, don't believe everything you read.
Gotta meet him first. Then, make up your mind. In the meantime, you're just excited about what it "Could Be".
Take a deep breath and look at the big picture rather than looking down that narrow tunnel of love and marriage.
2006-06-13 07:23:32 · answer #4 · answered by Scott D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The internet is not the best way to fall in love. There are too many people out there that think this is the place, but, it's not. If you are young person (child), I would say you shouldn't consider falling in love with someone over the internet, because of the risk of you getting hurt. Not just mentally, but physically, because you don't know who is on the other side of the screen that you are talking with, no matter what they say to you. If you watch the news at all, you would know this.
2006-06-13 07:22:47 · answer #5 · answered by ODUSylence08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love without site is much easier for a woman than a man. Men get charged up by visual cues (the hot chick scenerio) and if the communication is good - its a good fit all around.
The written word is a powerfull aphrodisiac used by men to lure women into there lair. So yes it is possible for a woman to fall in love over the internet, but I have to tell you I've known some damn good writers that made lousy husbands.
2006-06-13 07:28:53 · answer #6 · answered by Franklin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, it's definitely possible to fall in love this way. Of course, it's common sense to be careful. It helps to use the traditional method of meeting people too, because that way you know the where the person came from, and know of other people that know him/her. But this could also eventually happen after getting to know an online crush. I think you have to go with your gut, and you will know who is not being for real. Just like you have to go with your gut when meeting someone at a bar, through friends, work, at a store, or any other situation.
2006-06-13 07:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by smewth-e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna go against the majority here and say yes, it's possible. BUT, unless you meet someone, you don't know if your politics agree. He could have stinky feet, bad breath or fart loudly in public. All those little things that can drive ya nuts. Not everyone lies on line, I don't. I freely admit I'm a toad! Bottom line is it's possible, look at some of the other responses.
2006-06-13 07:25:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You obvisouly fell in love with his personality, but saddly enough, love is based on more than just that. Without meeting him how will you ever know if there were actually fireworks between the two of you? Did your heart beat faster when he kissed you? You'll never know. Were you physically attracted to him? You'll never know. Atleast now you know the kind of personality you like, and when you find someone with a personality like that, don't go on without knowing the rest of him... that was the downfall of your online romance... you just didn't REALLY know him.
2006-06-13 07:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by visionssofaraway 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. I am in love with a guy from online in NC and nobody understands around me how I could be in love with a guy I don't really even know. I have never loved anybody this much and sometimes it hurts. My advice to you is just follow your heart and do what feels right. You are the only one who knows whats best for you.
2006-06-13 07:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by cherry_juice5685 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋