im almost 18, i have aboyfreind he loves me but my family is extemely stricthe cantcomeovertothehouse ornothin

Question

we really are in love, and i want to c him instead of having to sneak around. but my family thinks all boys want one thing which is not entirely true, i not allowed to talk to boys have them over nothing at alll. its driving me insane. they said that i should just study every day, but he really smart and he helps me do that, and now its summer, so im outtta school they donotwant be dating but i jjust want to be with him and this is toruture. The only allow me to go to chruch and back, somehelp??????

ok so mr.level424me i understand where ur coming from, but doesnt this mean that im never going to see this guy alll? whenever we are not together i start crying because i miss him sooo much. alsso hes jewish and im christian he have noo problem coming to my chirhch but my family dont want me to c him at alll and hes the only guy i care about or ever will, also we we ready not now, we could do it cas hes gonna get an operation so he wot be able to have kids, i know he loves me cas he stays what ever i decide to do he will follow and i REALLY really dont want to sneak around

Answer 1

if you are 18 you have all the rights to have a boyfriend,and you also can start thinking about a job and a place to live do things right dont disrespect your family,but dont let them run your life wich legally is yours now. about wht they say boys want one thing only its true....but you seem like a very responsable girl get educated on what is what and have fun!!!!!! you let your family raise you and now they have to let you go and let you be an adult.. the best advice i can give you is to get a job and find you a place of own and dont get in to the relationship too fast gracefully tell your boyfriend you want to explore the relationship but you need sometime for your self is not good to come right out your home to jump in to a relationship give your self sometime..if he loves you he will accept... get some birth control and do things right like i said have fun dont lock your self up enjoy been an adult.good luck honey.

Answer 2

Wow, your experience sounds like mine when I was your age. I was 18 and I liked this yound lady and my parents didn't want me to get involved with her sayin we we're too young. You know, I didn't listen and ended up doing something I regretted dearly. I thought my parents didn't know what they were talking about or just didn't understand, but I was wrong. In the end, I married her had a child and then 5 short years later, had to divorce her because she wouldn't stay faithful. One thing I didn't realize that they did, is she had a past that proceeded her. In the end I payed the price, not my parents. If I had just listen to them, everything would have eventually worked out. How? Well, I would have seen if she really loved me or it was just her hormones talking. True love has a staying power that time or cirumstance just can't touch. If you two are really in love, then a year or so won't hurt. Time will be a sort of cleansing period in that it will bring any impurities or improper motives rise to the top. You will find out if he really respects you and your decision or just wants to get something out of you and then leave you. Also, you want to get past your "bloom of youth" as the bible states - because in that time your likes and dislikes can change dramtically. Look, I don't want you to make the same mistake I did. Not that you're going to marry and have a child and then divorce, but that you keep your intergity and chasteness and have a clean conscience and peace of mind. If you are a believer in the scriptures, know that God will take care of everything in due time if you please Him. Well, I hope you take this to heart, because it sure was hard for me to listen at your age. Hopefully, you're wiser than I was at your age and do the right thing.

Answer 3

Wow that kind of sucks...I thought my parents were bad they started letting me date my 11th grade year of high school. My advice to you is try sitting down and talking to your parents. Seeing as you're almost an adult let them know how you feel. Suggest that they meet your boyfriend's family, have a dinner party or something. Tell them that there is more to life than just school and studying you also have to have a balanced social life. I hope this helps you and I wish you all the best of luck with this and your relationship.

Answer 4

tell them the truth if not say you are goin with friends and go chill wit ya man