My future father in law isn't so connected to me and I dont know what to do to get him to acknowledge me or get to know me better so i can have a solid relationship with him.
2006-06-13 06:50:37 · 13 answers · asked by Star 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
One thing I've learned is you cannot make someone like you, love you, or fall in love with you. They either will or they wont.
Give it some time and spend time with him. Be considerate of his feelings but not open about them let him take the path and you follow.
If not then stay your distance and keep under the radar.
2006-06-13 06:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by daveosok1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very common problem, and you are not alone. Most of the time you hear about the mother-in-law, and not the father-in-law. In order to solve the problem, you must first be able to recognize it. If you don't know why he dislikes you, perhaps you can get a better insight from your future mother-in-law (if she is still available). If you really want to be bold, confront him in a kind way such as inviting him to breakfast with you. Maybe you can break the ice by letting him know how much it bothers you because you care so much for your future husband and his family. Communication works wonders for families, and 90% of us don't know how to communicate with each other. Don't allow this to be your handicap!
2006-06-13 13:56:30 · answer #2 · answered by pjonas69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things take time and effort. The more effort is made, the more it will be appreciated.
Let him know that you're not taking his son away from him, but invite him into your lives together. Have him over for dinner. Give him time with his son to play golf, fish, whatever the two of them do.
If your future husband and his dad aren't that close, don't expect the father-in-law to be close to you - this is just the nature of things.
Actions speak louder than words. Best of luck!
2006-06-16 17:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by Veritatum17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your soon to be wife and find out what his hobbies are what sports he likes what team is his favoriate. Learn to do some of the things he likes to do and invite him for an outing. If he likes baseball get him some tickets to his favoriate team and go with him. Samething for any other sport. If he enjoyes hunting or fishing arrange a hunting or fishing trip for just the two of you.
2006-06-13 13:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its hard an maybe not possible my ex father in law hated me eventually we found some common ground then i got a divorce its crazy how it didnt matter in the long run try talking about something you have in common goodluck i know that nightmare i lived it for 4 years
2006-06-13 13:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by irunwithscissors25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out what he likes and try to do something with your husband that'd make him feel good. let him know that u do want to get to know him better and u do care about him like he's your father. and maybe u can get your hubby to put in a few good words for u from time to time?.. oh... but if u know he doesnt like people sucking up to him, avoid doin those big gesture stuffs... and yea... try ur best not to get in his way. *hugs* good luck.
2006-06-13 13:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by lil'sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he has made a connection with one of your mates exes and he wants to make sure that you are the one before he makes a connection with you. or maybe he just doesn't express his feelings well.
2006-06-13 13:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do stuff with him like if he like fishing do that and tell him that you like him as a father in law
2006-06-13 13:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there specific things that he doesn't like? If not, don't worry to much about it. Just keep things civil.
2006-06-13 13:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by lmafishfish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a bl0wj0b
2006-06-13 13:55:49 · answer #10 · answered by snuffy_muffy_eater 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋