I dont date people with kids and if i do deal with you its on a not going to be my boyfriend basis just f- buddies or a good friend with benifits. I dont want to be a part of a ready made family or have to deal with building not only a relationship with him but his kid their mother her family not to mention his family thats just too much plus i always wanted my kid to be my first born and the fathers my parents have been toghther for 30yrs and i just want the same kind of thing for my kid i dont wanna have to explain why you and bookie have two differnt mothers and why you live in two diffrent houses and i dont wanna hear about what they did whn the older kid got chicken pops or sick i want him to be scard confused and having the experience with me for the first time i know its a bit selfish but its the truth and i want some non bias opinions because those that are closest to me constantly tell me your 28 you cant think like that any more and i really dont want to but i cant help it.
2006-06-13 06:34:12 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I understand u, but when u do get a kid, u & your boyfriend/husband can break up after & u will be in that same position.Will u get a new boyfriend then? What will u tell your kid then? It is ok to want a perfect life, but life isnt always perfect. It is good that your parents are together for 30yrs but most important is are they happy? For u to stay in a relationship for 10, 20, 30 yrs & be unhappy in it would be doing u & your kid no good.Also when your kid go 2 school he'll meet other kids there that come from split homes.As for wanting 2 experience your child's illnesses with u for the first, that is selfish. Your kid is the one who is suffering & in pain. For him 2 suffer more while u "experiment" is wrong.He may even die. Whoever have the best & safest solution 2 ease the kid's pain should be chosen.Anyhow, you havent any kids now. When u have had a few sleepless nights worrying about a child that looks ready 2 die, I guarantee that u will change your mind.
2006-06-13 06:57:58 · answer #1 · answered by Ethslan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is YOUR choice but you may be discounting a large number of potential mates. Unfortunate but true in the day and age there are a number of single parents from both sexes. I think your making a big thing out of nothing really. I was a single dad for 5 years. When I Finlay decided to open up and date it was awkward. In the end I made sure that I only let my kids meet the ONE. So we got to know each other before adding the kids in the mix. Would you rather have an irresponsible young buck with his head on crooked. Liefs experience are gain from experience. I would much rather date someone with a good head on their shoulders (w/ kids) that a bar fly.
2006-06-13 13:46:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't blame you because if the relationship doesn't work out you are not only losing abf you are losing the children as well. it is really easy to get attached to children and it is really hard to walk away from them if the relationship ends.just be honest to any potential bfs. plus the exes aren't always nice to the new gf who is going to be around her children.
2006-06-13 13:52:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every one is entitled to there own opinions I'm 29 and i don't have kids,but i love my girlfriends.i would like to have my own one day with her. you should always keep an open mind since we live in such a perfect world lol.
2006-06-13 13:43:35 · answer #4 · answered by monarchrichard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not wrong as long as you are honest with the person and do not lead them to believe you are OK with kids.
2006-06-13 13:39:03 · answer #5 · answered by ishootpix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it not wrong but what i will tell u is to be good all time
2006-06-13 13:41:50 · answer #6 · answered by jummybaibey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋