I have been in a serious relationship with the same man for almost 2 years now, and for the past few months, things have been a little shakky. We both work in high stress positions and have had alot to deal with recently. On Memorial day weekend, we got into a tiff that was just the icing on the cake for me, I was ready to crack, I was emotional and stressed, so finally just said enough, packed up and moved out in 2 days. He feels betrayed that I moved and said that I just left him high and dry. I gave him my portion of the mortgage, so that he was not financial struck, although funds are tight with him. He has now decided since I moved out he is looking for a job 300 miles away in the city where he grew up. We had a talk about this and I feel that he is abandoning me because we are still together. He said he felt the same way when I left... I live 3 miles away and see him daily, and I feel that I am almost ready to come back, but, I don't know what to do..I love him! Help!
2006-06-13 06:34:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont know what's right for you, but i would tell him that i love him and that i moved out because it was the most healthy thing to do in the situation, not because i wanted the relationship to end. it sounds like he is trying to get revenge, almost, which means that he is still very hurt. tell him that you think you want to move back but you are very serious about the relationship and want to make sure you do the right thing. make sure he knows that just because of these past few months you dont love him any less, and tell him that this kind of stuff is what happens in relationships, they arent always easy. tell him that if you two can work through it, you'll be closer than ever. i hope things work out for you two.
2006-06-13 06:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by m b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to rush into anything and wait. Explain to him that you are unders stress and need sometime to think. Nothing against him and you still care. Show some appreciation and hope he will understand. If he does not, that would be a loss to both of you, but it may be good you found out now than later. Partners should be patient and stree will be much more after marriage. He should be patient and understanding.
If he does not, I will introduce you to my brother.
2006-06-13 13:43:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're out of the house, now you need to move on in your social life as well. Stop talking to him every day. He is ready to move on in his life, back to his hometown. The two of you are good people, both of you, you are just not good together. Let him move back, get the new job, and you move on where you are. No use prolonging the inevitable. Good Luck!
2006-06-13 13:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you love him and want him back, then move back in. but it sounds like you just don't want him to move away cause it will be like him having the last word and you getting insulted. and he's right, he's just doing what you did to him. if you really think you can work things out, then try. but if you want him back just so he won't move away so he can be in the same city and you can call for booty calls and stuff, then let him go. it's not fair to either of you. and btw, if you moved out, then you're not together and you abandoned him.
2006-06-13 13:41:33 · answer #4 · answered by hg mccain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go back it seems that u guys really love and care for each other every body gets in to fights real bad one s too work things out with each other move back in and say sorry regardless whos falut it was! u guys made a commitment to be together for 2 whole years why quit now over a fight every one has them dont give up u guys need to be together ! everthing will work out fine
2006-06-13 13:45:11 · answer #5 · answered by baby phat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then let him know now. It does not matter who abandoned who, let go of the ego and tell him.
2006-06-13 13:40:36 · answer #6 · answered by lucielu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know...break down your feelings to him IN PERSON.its the only way..
2006-06-13 14:25:22 · answer #7 · answered by skaterchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋