I have this problem, I am often described as rude and arrogant when I communicate with others. I tend to give irritating replies and answers.
Is there is a way that I can reduce my toughness and start being more polite ?
2006-06-13 06:12:17 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Yes. this s a mini-meditation of putting some of your attention on your own tongue and throat when in a conversation. It results in your keeping your voice down at a modulated and reasonable level,
and thinking more slowly, so that you do not seem to be ramming your own thoughts, ego and feelings into the atmosphere
2006-06-13 06:17:53 · answer #1 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Use the words,"please," "thank you," "excuse me," "I'm sorry,"
"How are you." Pay attention to the people around you.Practice empathy,the ability to understand other people's feelings,moods. Too many people feel that the only person that matters is "ME, ME, ME." Be patient.People today all seem in such a rush;the rush is often so unnecessary.It's a rush to get nowhere.Use your time wisely and do not over schedule yourself so you don't have to rush.
Read these books(they are not long): Town and Country Modern Manners:The Thinking Person's Guide to Social Graces,edited by Thomas P. Farley, and Manners by Kate Spade.Browse through Emily Post's Etiquette by Peggy Post.These books will give tips on good communicating.
And practice every day;this is something that has too be practiced every day .You are going to encounter many other rude people,yourself.The goal is to act decently even when faced with rudeness... and that's very hard.
2006-06-13 14:35:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you need to start looking at previous encounters where people have thought this of you. Try to focus on what you did or say for them to think that you are rude and arrogant. It's all about how you present yourself. For example, if you're going to present yourself as a tough guy most people won't want to deal with you or others will feel uncomfortable speaking with you because they feel the need to keep their guard up. You also need to learn how to read the person if they will be able to take joking around, sarcastic answers etc ... Basically just think before you speak, place yourself in the other persons shoes and learn from previous experiences. good luck
2006-06-13 13:25:43 · answer #3 · answered by DLo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer to your question? Is there a way that I can reduce my toughness and start being more polite is - Yes you can.
You first need to understand your personality. Your strengths and weaknesses. It is a good thing that you are concerned about it. The world would be a better place if we understood each other. Human behavior is both a science and an art. Have you heard of Positive Personality Profiles? They offer a profile test on the site, take it to help you understand yourself. Good luck and remember it is just as important to understand others as well as yourself.
2006-06-13 13:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by Dart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to other people first before you make a remark. Think about what you are saying and would you like the comment told to yourself. Say polite comments if you disagree like "I'm not interested, but thank you." "Maybe next time." "I wish I could, but I must catch my flight." Remeber to smile!!!! It's hard to get angry with someone when they are smiling. Also, being sarcastic really turns alot of people off automatically..even if the intention was to be funny. Lean in to people when they are talking, make eye contact so you appear interested and smile.. even if you don't want to.
2006-06-13 13:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by rebekah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become a more active listener. Think before you speak. Not everything someone says needs a reply.
2006-06-20 05:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before speaking, think about how you would like to be spoken to. If this does not work try recording your voice the way you speak to others and listen to it over and over again.
2006-06-13 13:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by Dorothy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a little more kind to others...don't talk so harsh and tough to people. Be a little nicer and lot of people will want to be around you.
2006-06-13 13:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by LarryGuy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I am like you. Well, firstly don't forget to smile and always answer with something positive. Other times just keep your mouth shut and smile.
2006-06-14 03:46:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
think about what you say before you say it
2006-06-13 13:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by lil bit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋