Husband an as@hole?

Question

I love my husband and I know that he loves me but he has that new disorder that was on the news last week about blowing your top. He gets mad and he doesn't think before he opens his mouth so crap pours out! Any ideas to curve this problem of his?

Answer 1

Duct Tape and Therapy

Answer 2

First off, before you diagnose your husband with a new disorder, remind yourself you are not a doctor. If you were a doctor you would not have discovered this on the evening news show.

Second, does he remember what he was discussing or raving about? if he has a blankness and no memory of what transpired after these episodes then you can worry, it could be a problem as common as a thyroid condition or hormone imbalance and he should see his doctor about it. It could be physical and easily treatable.

If this is just the way he vents, lets off steam, or just cleanses his mind from a stressful day then sit down and listen politely as he goes on and on. As his wife you can be understanding about this. give him your undivided attention and listen even if you don't give a rats behind, don't add to the stress by arguing or ignoring him. I have to do this at least 4 times a week with my husband. But he feels so much better afterwards.

If his anger is directed at you, as a personal attack of your personaltiy or the way you clean house then it is time to go to couples counsuling. If he is phisically violent or verbally abusive towards you get out now! seek the help of a women's shelter in your area.

And if you are embarrassed by his behavior in public then talk to him about it after he cools off and in private. Bringing it up during a temper tantrum will do no good. You are a loving couple, this will not be a big deal to just discuss it and what can be done about it. There is no reason you should ever be afraid to talk to your husband about anything.

Lastly, don't believe everything you hear on the evening news. There is too much sensationalism and spin. every week there is another dire threat to human existence showcased. Turn off the TV and spend more quiet time with your husband.

Answer 3

First of all let me ask you what your problem is? Isn't it kind of rude to talk like this about your husband?How would you react if he was online saying this stuff about you. I also suppose that you have never gotten mad and said stupid things. Wake up! Everyone has at sometime in their lives.

If what your saying is true then you need to address it. However it should be to a professional not people on line.

As for your husband. He may have an anger issue. Talk to a professional about it. Sit in with him because maybe his issue isn't all about him. You may be part of the problem in how you respond to him. For example if he is mad and yells do you yell back at him. By sitting in and listening to him you both can learn about this issue and how to make things better on both sides.

Remember it takes two to tangle. You don't normally get mad by yourself.

Answer 4

Stuff something in his mouth to ebb the flow. Like your foot or fist.
Just kidding. Don't buy into that new disorder crap. Everyone has problems and he needs to accept responsibility for his actions like an adult and stop being a jerk! Get him to go to anger management. OR, you could modify your behavior. When he's a jerk, refuse to communicate with him. Go for a drive, ignore him, whatever, until he gets the idea that his behavior is unacceptable! Good luck!

Answer 5

Tell him you are noting down each episode of his outburst and do it. Have a notebook specially for this purpose. When he does it, bring out the book and write down what is it he craps about. Note the time and date when that happens. Knowing and seeing you do it should embarass him into awareness. See how many books you can compile.

Answer 6

Threaten him with a divorce if he doesn't quit. That is no way to live. My husband used to do that to me, I know he might have had a long day at work, but he has no right to take it out on anyone and you need to tell him that. If he doesn't change, my suggestion is to draft your own divorce papers, which forms are easily found on the internet, and give them to him. If he loves you, he will quit.

Answer 7

Whenever he blows his top, and crap strats pouring out of his mouth, bring his behavior to his attention. Ask him if this is the proper way to communicate with his wife? Equal respect.

Answer 8

You cannot change him.Do what I did.get a coffee can and tell him that wevery time he uses a bad word it will cost him a dollar.Everytime he blows up its another dollar.After you get all the cash,go out and enjoy yourself.Let him know it too.He might just think twice that next time it will cost him and you will be having a good time out on the town!(without him)

Answer 9

Treat him like I do my cats when they are in trouble.

Get a water bottle...or if your hubby is a big guy, a super soaker. Fill with icy water. When he blows his top, squirt him. Just once, then calmly say stop. If he doesn't stop, repeat until you get the desired results.....

Answer 10

Is he Attacking you personally, or blowing steam? because if it is the ladder, than you might need to just let him blow off steam and brush it off. But if he is attacking you then it is altogether different. I blow off steam alot, and my girl does not take it personal, she actually likes to debate with me, which is frustrating sometime, but usually it turns out good in the end.

I'd say if he is blowing steam let him get it off his chest, and enjoy the rest of your night...

If it is offending you, than you need to let him know and with him figure out a way to vent better.

If he is attacking you, than more drastic measures need to be taken, or learn to be submissive and buy him a whip.....

Good luck
Dave