Ok me and my boyfriend just broke up because his ex girlfriend came back into his life.They broke up about a year ago because she cheated on him.they went out for 2 and a half years but every time she breaks up with one of her new boyfriends she comes running back to him well he told me that he never wanted to be with her agin and he wanted to be with me.we have had so many memories and he changed colleges for me to stay closer and we just got back from nasville we stayed a week and got so much closer and I lost my virginnity to him and he said that he loved me so much and he would do anything to be with me.what should i do i really do love him I told him that I was worried about her wanting him back but he said i had nothing to worry about because she has cheated on him so many times and he would never want to be with her again.I understand that they went out for 2 years and they were each others "first" and he lives about 30 minutes away from me so how can I get him back please HELP!
2006-06-13 06:00:42 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wake up,he cheated on you so why have him back.chances are you will never fully trust him ever again.time to move on girl
2006-06-13 06:03:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of the problems you may be facing could be just the tip of the iceberg on what is really happening in your marriage. I dont mean to scare you but many problems when they either first show up or if they keep reoccurring could be just whats showing from a larger problem that either you or your spouse cannot even see. One of the only things you can do to help is to talk honestly and openly with each other in the marriage. If things become more serious more serious options need to be looked at as possibilities. I have a blog that has more information on some of what I've been writing about. If you feel like checking it out I would completly suggest it. Read here https://tr.im/BK6eP
Love is a choice that is made everyday when you wake up and every night when you go to sleep. Some days you may not feel the original feeling but love isnt a feeling or an emotion. Its an action a verb. Falling out of love may just mean you need to spice things up a little or that you were never in love in the first place. Don't just get out of a marriage just because you don't think you like the person anymore.
2016-07-19 00:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm wow. this is hard to answer in a sensitive manner. especially since i am a cynic. think about this: do you think that your getting him back will suddenly force him to choose you as the permanent option? you can't be sure that he won't go back to her three years from now. why wait? he is obviously showing signs that he is not dedicated to you. you'll never make him be. as far as love goes, love is a four letter word. without meaning behind it, it is no more than a profanity. you're in school? work on school. dating at your stage (not age) should be fun. i assume that i am not much older than you having graduated from school a few years ago. i can say that experience has taught me this (pardon the cliche): nothing lasts forever. including and especially bad things. you may be upset but you will inevitably come to the realization that it really wasn't that bad after all. so to sum it up, dump him cry about it then move on. don't let hindsight say "i told you so"
2006-06-13 06:13:05 · answer #3 · answered by justme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think about what you just said. He doesn't seem to know what he wants. First and foremost, you have to love yourself. Love yourself enough to know that you deserve better. You should come second to noone. He knows what she has to offer and if he chooses to keep going back to that, let him. Show him that you can do well without him and trust me when I tell you he will come running back to you. My mother always told me that if a man breaks up with you, especially for another woman, you put your best foot forward and keep on moving. Keep your hair done, dress nice, put your make up on (if you wear it), and carry yourself with your head held high. He will see what he is missing and try to come back. If you want him then you can make that decision. If you don't smile and keep going because there is someone out there that will treat you a lot better.
2006-06-13 06:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by totally ignored 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put up with that bull****. Let him go. He will figure it out on his own. it won't work between them. you know that, or it would have already happened.
As for you. Have some fun do some dating. When he finds out you may not be sitting around waiting for him he just may want you back FOR GOOD. He thinks you are gonna be there to pick up the pieces next time she dumps him.
Your situation mirrors mine. My FIANCE was like that with his ex wife. i was devastated when he said he wasn't sure which one he wanted. He tried to get back with her because I told him he wasn't gonna live with me while he made up his mind. He was gone a week. we had similar incidents after that, i always was there to take him back. the last time he moved out i dated other guys and had all kinds of fun. He knew all about by word of mouth. HE HATED IT. i tried not to have anything to do with him. long story short; once he figured out i wasn't gonna put up with the crap, and was able and willing to find someone new, he straightened up. He is totally different now. He asked me to marry him bought me a beautiful ring, we bought a house, and we are happy. And still he knows my limit. i love him and I am happy now but if he was to start his crap again, he would be GONE in a flash. FOR GOOD! ( and i WILL keep the house!)
2006-06-13 06:20:46 · answer #5 · answered by ladyjno7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you do is STOP!! Trust me...occupy your mind with other things. the pain of losing him will go away. if this man was the one you were suppose to be with then he would stay. its not that you are not a beautiful person. if this woman hurt him in the past she will hurt him again, but if he could do this to you once he will do it again. go out with your friends have a great time. and some where you will run into that wonderful man that will treat you like the princess you are. hes a bad man...
2006-06-13 06:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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This is probably the most important part. With texting, you can stop and think about what you want to say to your ex at each step of the way. Instead of reacting emotionally, you can take your time, figure out the right thing to say (I’ll give you most of it), and be strategic with your ex without saying something that you’ll regret.
2016-04-24 18:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you may love him and say he's the love of your life but he's not. I say you find a guy who can love you back the way you wanted him to. Let this cheater go (sorry) and try to move on without him. Give yourself the chance to be the love of someone else's life and love them back. You never know you might find your true soul mate. Good Luck!
2006-06-13 06:09:05 · answer #8 · answered by hpfan14wyo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear you you don't need to get him back because obviously he doesn't care for you enough to want to be with you you shouldn't have to wait for him to want you let him go and and find somebody else because it seems to me like he lied about not wanting to see her because he's back with her so you shouldn't want hI'm back for two reasons 1 he still in love with her 2 there are other fish in the sea and im pretty sure they'll want a nice person like you from reading your situation you sound like some one that is considerate and caring and at times can be stubborn and sensitive when it comes to relationships p.s good luck you can ask me for advice anytime I'll be here just ask
2006-06-13 06:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by tiki s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry,
But at 16 your heart will ache....Let him go.
You were just a "Rebound Crutch" to him something to get him through lonely times....It will hurt but cry it out and let go. One Question.
Did you trust him? Even when he "forgot" to call or come by?.... And I'll tell you something my mother told me. If you trust them, and they show you no reason to break that trust. Then
Keep them. If not dump them, Learn from it, And move on. Good luck.
2006-06-13 06:13:00 · answer #10 · answered by ksberserk@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give it time. she'll cheat again and he'll come back to you. then it will be up to you if you want to keep dating this loser. sorry, but if he really loved you, he wouldn't have hurt you like that. just go up to the liquor store and have a quiet night at home. remind yourself of the lies he told you and get angry. let it all out and get over him. besides, you lost your virginity to him, now you know what his is like... you should find out what others are like. yes, they are different. find out for yourself!
yeah, i would focus on that. get over him and meet some new ones. you'll thank yourself!
2006-06-13 06:06:56 · answer #11 · answered by hg mccain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋