Most people work all day and put their children in daycares and stick them with nannies. What is a good way to make spending time with your kids essential? what is a good way to get to know them better?
2006-06-13 05:52:51 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When I get home in the evening (both of mine are in school & go to daycare for 3 hours after school) I am 100% accessible to my children. We eat together, we go out together, we read aloud before sleeping. Anywhere I go, they go with me. I am involved at their school & show up for every school function/PTA meeting, I attend all of their extra-curricular activities with them, we go to the movies once a week. They know they can count on me to be there, no matter what's going on. Tons of hugs & kisses; we're very physical with our love & affection. They can't get too much!
2006-06-13 05:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First the parents must make a commitment from day one, then pick a time each day that you and child are at home and spend that time talking about the events of the day, if the child is involved in any activities it essential that you be there as often as possible, at least one parent to make an appearance. Always praise them in a activity , even if there not the best. always in a positive way show them what to improve, but most of all they must have fun.
2006-06-13 06:01:47 · answer #2 · answered by John S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that the important thing is that the time you spend with your kids, be great for both of you.
Do you remember the times with friends, those who you were happy to be with? to spend time? I believe you have to try those moments to be like that. Enjoyable moments.
Remember that all the jokes, all the games, all the happiness, that you had in there, was the time you remember better; and those were the moments that gave you the posibility to share any other thing, those gave you the feeling that it was ok to trust in them, those gave you the confidence with the friends, and lead you to talk about more important things.
Share with your kids, the Video Games, the movies they like, the outdoor games, if it can only be on weekends, well, make the weekends unforgetabble.
If you spend those little time that you have, trying to give them speach, after speach, finally they will try to avoid you, and they will acomplish this when they get to the puberty.
Now.. if you want to be a part of their everyday life, i would tell you to spend perhaps, dinner time, only for them. If it cannot be dinner time, you can try to have a little game with your kids before bedtime, like cards, or see one cartoon, they want to see with them. At that moment, in the comercials, or between the game, try to tell what you did during the day, some funny stuf, something nice that happened to you, that will encourage them to tell you what they did, what happenen in school, what happened with nanny, etc.
2006-06-13 06:11:59 · answer #3 · answered by Popocatepetl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not just spending more time but making the time spent count. Turn off the TV and video games and play games with them. Go outside and ride bikes or go to the park. Make bedtime their time. Read a couple of books instead of a quick story so you can do the hundreds of other things you want/need to get done. As a mom with two kids who are going to be leaving before I know it, I've learned that the housework will wait, they won't.
2006-06-13 06:06:07 · answer #4 · answered by kimama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The priority in our lives (my husband and I) is our kids. Everything else just can wait a little longer. This means our house is a little messy, we do not go out with friends unless ours kids are with us.
We read with them, we play with them as much as possible. The free time we have is for them. We also try to do one-to-one time, sometimes I spend 2 hours with one kid during the weekends while my husband is with the other kid, and probably the next weekend we switch, sometimes we do things together.
2006-06-13 07:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard. I work, and everyday is so hard for me. I wish I had all my time for my baby, but for us it's imposible to quit my job, we need the money to survive, not for luxuries.
Anyway, what I do, is to spend every free time I have with my son. After work,I rush to my mom's house to pick him up. I kiss him and hug him, play a little bit with him before we go home. I try to do everything with him. We go shopping and do errands together. I clean the house until he falls asleep, I don't wanna waste any time doing house chores when I can be with him. I used to work out every day before I got pregnant, now I don't do it anymore, because it'd be time away from him.
You have to sacrifice a lot of things, but at the end of the day you know you got to know your kids better, and that's worth it.
2006-06-13 07:11:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Eat meals with your family - together - have them help prepare and clean. Don't watch TV, have a conversation. I like the "high low" game - ask them about the high point of their day, and the low point. Play games with your children. If you have to schedule a specific night, do it, and commit to it just like you would a business meeting. Your children need to know they are a priority in your life.
2006-06-13 06:02:30 · answer #7 · answered by aust_jm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have family movie night and family game night. Budget your time so weekends can be about more free time. Cook with your kids.
2006-06-13 06:08:33 · answer #8 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the fantasy world win the lottery! But otherwise use every available minute you got.
2006-06-13 05:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by ♥USMCwife♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
play with them when you get home. if they are older than 3 ask them about their day. give them baths if they are little read to them. go to the beach or the park
2006-06-13 05:55:44 · answer #10 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋